What age do you want children & why? If you have had them young, would you change anything?

Question

Ive always been told to go on holidays & enjoy myself first, but how can you if you credit crunch is taking all your money!

Anyway.... How old & why?

If you already have, Would you change it?

Answer 1

Id say 25.

Young enough to keep up with them.

Old enough to have 5 years of holidays first.

Hopefully not to old to enjoy yourself afterwards.

Answer 2

18 - didnt mean too,

but he's 8 now and the best thing it world and my reason for living. And I own my own house (well its mortgaged) and i drive a nice car. I find im better off as well since having my son. In the UK wages are topped up if you have childen (though i am not saying this is a reason for having them). (his absent non paying father pays more in tax i am gttin in tax credits b4 anyone starts with taxpayer argument.)  the upside is i will only be 36 when he is 18. my mum will be collecting her pension and child benefit at the same time as she had my brother later on. Dont fancy that. Downside is forget  that gap year and everything can be so much more difficult but then rewards are so much better.

Answer 3

I'm still stuck on whether or not I want them. Roght now I'm 95% sure I don't want them really ever. My career is more important and I really don't want that stress of having to take care of another person. Now I'll watch other people's well behaved kids all day long but when it comes to my own I want to be able to get up and go without worrying about a kid. It could change VERY far down the line when I'm where I want to be and assuming I want to be in a relationship and married but I would rather just have a dog, preferably two.

Answer 4

Im not having any and I am old.  I do not want little me's running around.  I am doing this for the well being of mankind.

Answer 5

I had my 1st son when I was 22.  The 2nd was born just before my 25th.  I wouldn't change a thing.  They were both planned, and I was already married (still married after 28yrs).  My sons are now 27 and 24, and I'm not yet 50

Answer 6

I had kids at 31 and 39....and it was perfect! I can give them my time, we have few money worries, and I'm still fit!!

Answer 7

Never wanted children, never had them. If we had we wouldn't be taking 2 luxury holidays a year or driving a Porsche  911 Turbo.

No, I wouldn't trade that for stinking nappies, screaming babies, toddlers having tantrums, and belligerent teenagers if you paid me.

Answer 8

27/28 i plan to start...my plan was have fun then meet the 1 be together for a couple of years and enjoy being together having holidays etc, first child at 27/28 a second not long after then a couple of years and have a 3rd!! 2 boys and a girl in that order!!! haha im 25 now!!

Answer 9

I always wanted my first kid around 28 and my second one about 3 years later.  Everyone says they want to have fun first, but the way I see it, if you have kids early, you will be young enough to enjoy your life when they are out of the house.  The only difference is you will actually have the money to do stuff.

A month an a half after being married my wife told me she was preggo.  Now I'm 25 with a baby girl (2 weeks old).  It is probably a good thing.  If we waited till we were ready then we probably would have never had kids.

Answer 10

If you don't have money now, don't have kids because you will never have extra money.   I waited until 32 to have my first kid.   I had my own house, my own career, married someone with a good job and we had money to take proper care of children.   Glad I waited for many reasons but I wouldn't have had the patience to deal with children in my 20's or the finances.

Answer 11

Children are there for at least the next 18 years and I want to be d**n sure I've done all the things I want in life before committing myself to that.  If the credit crunch is taking all your money, you will struggle big time when you have kids - they cost an absolute fortune.  I'm 28 and have no plans to have kids yet - my mum had my oldest sister when she was 28 and she says it was still to young, and I agree!  

I don't think there is a set age - just when you're emotionally and financially stable and won't regret all the things you havent done

Answer 12

i had my daughter (planned) at 22. i wouldn't change it. i see a lot of  mums in their late 30s and they are so different, their life stops and its totally about the kids and nothing else. some are obsessed. my daughter is the most important thing to me but i still do tons of stuff, i just bring her along and i have the energy to keep up with her and am young enough to enjoy climbing on the monkey bars with her! when im in my 40s i can travel as much as i like to places i want with people i want around me just the same as i could now. i think its different for everyone, you need to be in the right place mentally when having kids.

Answer 13

I am almost 27 an had my little man 5 months ago. I feel as though i am emotionally and financially able to give him the best i can now and he means the whole world to me :)

Answer 14

omg i HATE children i would never want any! i plan to be an Animal Cruelty Investigator with lots of dogs a horse and some fainting goats (look them up on youtube they are awesome!) sorry if this isnt what you were looking for...i want a simple life. no husband no kids. simple as it gets :)

Answer 15

26-30. after i finish college and establish a career.

Answer 16

im thinking 31 - 33 ...

just dont want them now...i still have things i want to do in my career...places i want to go...live...continue for my Masters and PhD...

and i dont want to worry about having to take care of another human right now...

but i want them...just cus... continue my genes lol  

Answer 17

I bet kids would take more money than the holidays though!

I always thought I'd have my first child at about 26 (after I got married at 25). I'm 25 now :s.

I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years so at least I know who the daddy will be :). I just graduated from uni in july and we actually have travelling plans (South America Nov till Apr 09), after that buying house and wedding and then kids. Now we are hoping to have our first one when I'm about 29 now so didn't work out at the age I wanted when I was younger but I'm still happy enough with having my 1st by 30.

Answer 18

have them when your 90 so you dont have to put up with them for very long