What am I meant to do??? What would you do?

Question

Ok, I'm 21, I live with my Dad just me and him. It's been this way since I was 14. My sister moved in 2 years ago for 1 year and then moved back out. I am being controlled by him. I work 9-5 Monday-Friday and then I am forced to clean the entire house on a Sunday and make sure the kitchen is spotless in Tuesdays. I fell pregnant in June to my fiance Jason and was forced to abort the baby or Dad would kick me out and take my car that he gave me a loan for. I went into a coma 2 weeks ago from a severe chest infection and asthma attack, and today he yelled at me for not cleaning the microwave because I am still recovering from the coma. What would you do? I just want to be happy and live my life, I wanted that child and so did my fiance but I also didn't want to upset my Dad (he has lung cancer)

Answer 1

It's one thing to want your daughter to clean the house, but telling you to abort your baby?

That's not right. You should move out..with your fiance, or get your own place. He can't control you like that, you're a grown woman.

I'm sorry you had to abort the baby...I wouldn't have allowed my dad to do that to me. Having lung cancer is serious, but it doesn't give him the authority to treat you like that.

Answer 2

Maybe it's time for you to move out of your father's house and live your own life?

It's a shame he has lung cancer, but just because a person has lung cancer doesn't mean they won't have unreasonable expectations of you or others.   Lung cancer doesn't give your father the right to treat you like a maid or slave.

Consider your own happiness and well-being.  You are not responsible for your father.  

Answer 3

I understand your situation,but that dozennot mean for you to have in abortion.

you knew you been living with your father so that you can`t have a child ,you knew that ,but i think it is not your fathers fault you get pregnant because you  thought you can get out the house and be with your finance please don't get pregnant any time soon again you see if he really wanted that kid he would have find a way i mean your man listen if you can`t take it anymore you have to find your way everyone would say go leave but iam not really telling you this if you stay you have to do what your dad says if not there is the door so till you there you have to do to make you happy don't blame your father for aborting your child move on otherwise it will kill you you have to make better days for your self good luck

Answer 4

get married, move in with your fiance, and get out of that house.

he has no right to be controlling you like that. you are 21. not 14 again.

Answer 5

Woman you don't need that! Even if he has lung cancer he still don't need to treat you like a slave. If I were you I would move out and move in with your fiance, and why do you need to make your dad happy? He apparently don't give a c**p about you at all if you had to kill a baby.

Answer 6

That's sad to read, it really is.  How in the world could your own father force you to abort? doesn't he know the emotional impact that will have on you for the rest of your life? I guess he doesn't.  But it's never to late to break away from the tyrant that your father is to you.  Try to find a way for you and your fiance to move out together.  You really need to get away from your dad, he doesn't care about you the way a dad should.  You are 21, you are an adult and should be treated with respect.  You deserve a lot and you will be happy someday.........as soon as you are out of your Dad's house.  Good Luck.