What am I suppose to do in this situation?

Question

I broke up with my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago but that doesn't mean I've stopped caring about him. We actually planned to spend the rest of our lives together but things didn't go according to plan so we ended the relationship. I still love him as much as I have when we were still together. Now here's my problem:

I've been having a really hard time since the break-up but I haven't talked to him or seen him at all since it all happened, so I have no idea how he's been dealing with it. In the next few weeks, there are a few events that I have to go to but I'm pretty sure he's going to be there too since we have a lot of the same friends. Problem is, I don't know how I am suppose to act when I see him. Do I pretend we never planned to get married? Do I bring the past up (it's only been 3 weeks)? Do I tell him I miss him? I don't want to look stupid. I just want to have some dignity left, if that makes any sense.

I'm scared that the progress I've made without him in the last 3 weeks will be for nothing once I see him again. Any advice?

Answer 1

Being prepared to see him is half the battle, I think.  

No need to have any kind of a heart to heart...be warm, friendly when you say "hi" and get on with having a good time.

As long as you know it was the right thing to break up, you can confidently move on and enjoy the events whether he is there or not.

Answer 2

It really depends if you broke up with him and the reason for the break up,but if it was him that brought it to the end i would let him do the talking and take your lead from him

If it was you think of the reason and ask yourself has anything really changed

Answer 3

Like you said in your question, just because you broke up does not make it easier. So you will feel all sorts of feelings daily.

As for the part of your question that you do not know how he is doing, I guess that is no longer your concern. So try not to dwell on that.

When you see him, be warm and friendly, nothing more. Dont talk about the past.

It shows care and maturity to remain friendly with an ex, after all you did love him once, and still do in a different way.

love does not go away it merely changes shape.