What am I suppose to say when I'm sick with bronchitis and my husband tells me I'm a drag?

Question

When I've been sick in the past, either with food poisoning, a sprained back, bronchitis. I am not the happiest person in the world. I usually just feel sick and sit there on the couch. I take care of myself, make my own tea, get my own food and medicine, etc. When I'm sick my husband gets pouty and grouchy because he says I bring him down. I've said on numerous occasions that I am sick, I don't feel well, I don't ask anything of him. This past time I had bronchitis and was throwing up from coughing and again, out came the pouty little boy because his world wasn't peachy. I asked him what was wrong, hoping it was not a repeat of before, and he tells me I'm a drag. When I'm sick all I do is mope around and it's not fun for him and I'm a drag.

Really, please help me understand how someone who professes to love you can be so selfish as to think only of how he feels and what affects him, when his loved one is sick?

Answer 1

He does not love/care about you.

Answer 2

You married a big baby.  

Answer 3

Read your own question.....you should name yourself Debbie the downer.  

Answer 4

Next time he gets sick treat him the same way. Then maybe he will realize how he makes you feel!

Answer 5

My ex was EXACTLY like that.    When I was sick with bronchitis and dying on the sofa, he's asking me what's for dinner.    If I didn't get up and take care of HIM, he would pout and grumble.   I finally figured out he was emotionally unable to be compassionate and empathize.   He came from a very dis functional home, and he never learned these skills.   I did try to explain that his attitude hurt me, but he couldn't or wouldn't change.   Maybe you can try with your husband.

I eventually divorced because of that situation and many others.   Hope yours turns out better.

Answer 6

Next time hubby comes round for some nooky, tell him " you're too much of a drag! You bring me down."

Answer 7

I like to name my farts... Like Willis, Conrad or Jimmy.

It makes me feel strong...