What am I suppose to tell him every time he brings her up?

Question

I really feel like I'm feeling this guy who i been dating for a month now,

but he has a child and he's still married him and his wife they been separated for a year, she has been dating guys and Yes she knows about me so does his family .They want a divorce but they cant afford it .Hes a sweet guy and I was always depressed b4 he came into my life but he makes me feel better but anyway...he tends to bring up his memories of when his wife first had the baby every little detail and about his son..and just what him and his wife use to do the good things the arguments and sometimes me i feel so sad .I mean I always picture my self having a husband and seeing the look on his fast having his first child .It just hurts I don't wanna tell him not to talk about it anymore because i feel like he might get mad at me ...what should I do about this ??

Answer 1

u should tell him shut the '''' up cos it is making u uncomfortable and if it makes him mad he can hit the road and watch out for the door not to hit him on his way out. never ever suffer for anyone - it is useless and it makes u feel miserable and a person who makes u suffer feeling angry at u. u don't like smth - u say. and by the way your new bf is a stupid jerk. even a dumbest person would figure out that he shouldn't talk about his ex with his new.  

Answer 2

I was in a similar situation.  From my experience, it's best to walk away.  You will never be as special to him as the mother of his first child.  He doesn't sound like he is over her.  You will just be hurt all the time.  Leave him and try to find a man who is single and childless.  Best of luck!  I know it's hard, but it will be worth it.

Answer 3

I have a difficult time believing that they can't come up with $299 between them to pay for a do-it-yourself uncontested divorce.  If they really wanted to be divorced, they would be.  He's not over her.  That's why they're not divorced.  Otherwise, he would mention his daughter but not fond memories of the first time the ex held her.  If I were you I would run before I got in any deeper.

Answer 4

My hubby used to talk about his EX all the time when if first got together but what was even worse was she came before the previous girlfriend.So I was thinking he really must still have feelings left for her.Finally one day I told him that if he brought her up again that he would spend the rest of his life alone with just memories of her.He got the message pretty quick

Answer 5

Tell him that you love it when he talks about his son, but, ask him if he would please omit the ex wife from his stories. You know that she was there. But, it makes you feel a bit uncomfortable when he talks about her like they are still together and you are the other woman. If he gets mad about it, who cares! It's your life and heart.

Answer 6

tell him "time to change the topic"  

Answer 7

the hurt will continue.. because down the road those feelings will come back and hes gonna want his family back together... just don't get involved with someone who has a kid . I never will ever again... so many reasons.. you will come to see it.. it just will NOT get better.

you gotta kiss alot of frogs before you meet your prince.. hes out there

Answer 8

he's nto over his ex and i think he will eventually get back with her if he can.

Answer 9

Tell him to leave the past behind him, ur his present now. The truth is he cant forget those memories(memories are treasures no one can steal) but he doesn't have to talk to you about them.Ask him how he would feel if you started giving him details of your past relationships. If he really want a relationship with you he should stop talking about his ex, unless of course he still has feelings for her. If this is the case, then my dear you might end up getting hurt coz maybe its not that they cant afford the divorce, it could be that they don't want it, as in they still hope to reconcile. Maybe he misses his wife so when he's with you he's thinking about her. The best way to find out is talking to him and ask him to be sincere about what he really wants BUT he might not tell you the truth coz doing that might cost him your love. Good luck.

Answer 10

Don't you think that you are already in a dangerous situation. I can understand that you said he cares for you....but he is still married to another woman , so what can he honestly offer you that is 100% true. It's like you are living in a dream world. The reality of the situation is that he already has alot of obligations. I know that you said his wife is seeing other men, but 2 wrongs don't make a right. And you need to be ready for anything that comes  your way. Anytime you are going into a relationship with a married they are always going to have many obligations to the other person, so don't be surprised if he mentions his life or want to compare you to his other. Because you are his side item no matter what he tells you...( loving you, caring for you...what ever. ) If he really wanted to get divorced he would find a way. ** He found a way to get married so he can find a way to get divorced***

Just be careful and cautions of everything. Good Luck

Answer 11

he is still in love with his wife you had better give him some space and some time

Answer 12

dude you need to seek help for your self. You can't really think your in your right mind fore seeing this new dude as your husband and having ababy. You are cookoo.  And tripping over his memories? You are acting silly. You are still depressed if not more.Little do you realize.

Answer 13

First of all, he needs time to heal.  Forgive me for saying this but, he doesnt seem like he's completely over her.  He does need time to heal.  If he doesnt allow himself that time he cant commit himself to you 100%  and you need to rethink if you think you should be dating him.  Its not a situation that you may not want in because, what if they work things out? You need to express how you are feeling, how it weirds you out that he talks about it.  If its something you cant deal with I would say run the oppisite direction to someone that is not seperated and treats you as a rebound.  Sorry if I sounded harsh