What am I supposed to think?

Question

alright so I am a freshman and this guy is a senior. he's dating another freshman she says he likes her but feels trapped because she loves him. I've know him for 3 years now and we talk alot at school and it feels like there is something between us and he tells me I'm really cute. at the end of the year he was still going out with the girl but he told me we had to hang out all the time. but when ever we talk on AIM its just like one word sentences and he doesn't even mention hanging out? so what am I supposed to think?

Answer 1

i would ignore him. if he really wants you and is interested, he'll pursue you. i know so many guys that go after the younger girls. they do it becuase they know you like the attention and they like the attention they get from you. my guess is that hes just leading you on. there are better guys out there hunny. take it from someone who knows. i made the same mistake when i was and underclassmen. i met this guy and he was awesome and cute and funny and we went out but all he wanted to do was hook up. just be careful

Answer 2

It sounds like he either wants to be "just friends" with you or he's a player.

In my opinion I would stay friends with him but go no further if he suggests it as he's probably got a stash of girls lying around somewhere.

Answer 3

Ditch him. let it go. Guys like that are just flirts. Trust me. I am not a scorned woman I'm with a guy who used to be like that. He would flirt with other girls for fun but never once tried to leave me. And trust me it is only likely to cause you trouble if you pursue him. Find someone else who acts like they want to talk to you and hang out.  

Answer 4

You're supposed to think he's a player and is trying to lead you on/get with you.

First, he's dating a freshman. Although it could be just because he liked her a lot, I don't think very highly of men who date below their grade level/age group.

Second, that "I don't want to hurt her" "I feel trapped" stuff is such a LINE. He's trying to use it to imply he wants to break up with her to get you interested.

Third, he's hitting on you, even though he's "trapped" and doesn't want to hurt her feelings. If he was a real good guy, he would RESIST flirting/hitting on you until they were broken up. By leading her on and hitting on you he's running a risk of hurting her twice as much!

Fourth, actions speak louder than words. Although some guys just aren't talkative on AIM, if he really wanted to see you, he'd be more energetic in speaking with you, and he'd actually invite you to hang out, not just talk about it in the future tense.

The bottom line: He says a lot of things that make him seem like a nice guy, but he doesn't ACT or SOUND like a sweet, self-sacrificing guy. He has a lot to gain by gettting you to fall in love with him. If you really like him, ask him where he wants to be with you. Tell him he's going to have to WAIT UNTIL HE'S SINGLE to go out with you. After all, you're probably too good to be some player's "other woman"!

Answer 5

what are u supposed to think?

exactly what the TV tells u.

TV good. Man fall down. Funny

Answer 6

As long as he is in a relationship with another girl .. stay out of this.. you don't want to be one of his GF's.. you should wait for a guy who respects you and has no other and who doesn't want to start a harem.. If he is still involved with this other girl. definitely I would stay away from him.. he is taken.. so I would move on and wait until you meet a guy who respects you and who has nobody else and who really cares about you.. That he feels trapped but she loves him so he has to stay is a lame excuse.. move on.. you are worth of being a one man woman... and not be a 'bit on the side''

Answer 7

you think, "he's a guy with a girlfriend who leads other girls on behind his girlfriend's back..." is what i think.

Answer 8

I'd forget him. I liked this boy I was pretty good friends with, and we were getting real close finally, when my other friend declared she liked him. My other friend helped those two get together, and now they're happy together. I've seriously considered about a million times being the girl to break them up to be his new girlfriend, but decided my reputation didn't need that-I'm known as an innocent good girl, much like Darcy on Degrassi. Well, I gave up on him just last month, and right after, I befriended my friend's cousin, who I became real close to quickly. It's sort of like in Miley's song,"All this time I was looking for love, tryin' to make things work that weren't good enough. Til I thought I'm through said I'm done." And all of a sudden, before I knew it, he and I ended up dating. And we still are. Just drop this guy. You'll find someone you can have to yourself, I promise. Just give it time. I'm sixteen, and he's my first love, but it was well worth the wait, I swear.