What am i doing wrong? i need some parenting advise ? please?

Question

i have a 10yr old daughter. we are a blended family for 3yrs, have 1 3yr old, just in the past year she has been full of attitude. like she doesnt want to do her jobs around the house,i have to tell her more than enough times then i break down in tears. she knocks on the door everytime my partner and i are intimate, she always has i high toned whisper in her voice like evrytime she has an issue. i do talk to her about stuff but its repeated over and over again and i tell her how to resolve things but she keeps coming back with the same stuff.she just doesnt listen. she can be a happy child at times, theres no problems but when she does, its like she could burst with anger and tears!

Answer 1

Sounds like she is trying to deal with you having a man and trying to be a kid....

Why don't you try telling her you understand it hurts and you understand she's mad but that you can't do this alone you need her with you in your life and spend lots of time with her.

Answer 2

...You were a teenager once too darlin...with some highly mentally created attitude  ..remember?......and surely your mind and body and mental chemistry was changing all at that very moment in time for you too.

Cut your teenager a little bit of slack minded behavior once in a great while hun.....cause nobody's perfect babe.

Not even you and I are perfect darling.

Life is absolutely starting to evolve for your teenaged FEMALE in some new and sometimes scary uncharted waters.

WOW!!!......how marvelous huh?

What were you expecting really?

This is the most fabulous moment for you to find your good well mindedness too sweetie.....cause this teenaged child is crying out for some answers and direction from you directly quite obviously.

Can't you see that you're all changing here together hun?

Welcome to the high fashioned life of parenting and parental skills sweetie.

Get ready for the roller coaster ride of everyone's life with her changes honey.....cause I can only imagine that your own parents went through this very same moment in time with you as well.......and look how beautiful YOU ended up turning out darlin?

Glide over the bumps with her hun,......cause the alternatives wouldn't seem very pleasant otherwise hun.

Being a teenager will assuredly eventually change into adulthood my most marvelous friend.

Only then will you see what a reflection you have created within this teenaged child outwardly.

Keep your wits and your good commen senses beside you......cool?

Love ya babe!!!

Answer 3

i would spend more time with her try to see whats bothering her -- it could be your partner whom she may not be comfortable with --it could be school ---it could be a multitude of things

talk to her and dont scold her

maybe she feels alone if its not your partner thats affecting her maybe you can try to get everyone to do something together

for chores i would try to give her a little bit of responisiblity and make her feel like shes the only one that would do the best job thats why you need her to do it

she just may not be feeling important so find importance in little things

and as far as her knocking on hte door when you and your partner are intimate...honestly you really shouldnt be getting intimate with your partner when the kids are around...they look up to you and expect to spend time with you and when your locked up in th e room with your partner, she may be feeling abandoned

wait until the kids are in bed or on a play date so that they see that they are your first priority

hope this helps! good luck!

Answer 4

wow............um.............she is in general a pretty stubborn kid! Eat chiken or any kind of protien for dinner one night, protien can put you in a better mood. If not that, work a goal system.

ex: do your homework and get 30 minuites of TV

if she still gets mad, just tell her that she HAS to do it. there is no way out. You need to start limiting things also.

Make sure she gets plenty of exersize, she and she eats right! A healthy lifestyle always makes people happier.