What are good daily chores for a 13 year old girl?

Question

She is falling apart from the "Family". It is me her mother, her stepdad, and he two younger siblings. But she is going apart completely from what she says isn't her family because she only counts me as her family.

Answer 1

time  to  lay down  the  law. no  chores  no  frills  ie  tv,  music, internet. cash . it  aslso  dependsif  this  is  for  extra cash or just  expected

Some  chores  that  are  just  expected  are keeping  room  clean and taking  a share  of  each  household  task  at  least  once  a week,  vaccuuming  dusting etc

we  used to  have  a schedule  of  all  the  tasks and  they  were  evenly  split  among the  three of  us  and  rotated.

beds  had  to  be  made  every  day  and  laundry had  to  be  in hamper  or  it  didnt  matter  how much  else we  did  we got  no alowance

but  extra money  stuff might  be yard  work, or cleaning  bathtub tiles (as far  up  as  she  can  reach  anyway)  or full  kitchen  scrubdown and  reorganizing  (Spring  cleaning)

these are  all fairly  age  appropriate  tasks  for  any  teenager

Answer 2

WELL IT LOOKS TO ME THAT CHORES ARE NOT GOING TO FIX THE PROBLEM. FOR ONE I FEEL THAT THE SCHOOL GIVES THEM ENOUGH STRESS DUE TO EXAMS AND TAKS TESTING SO ,IN MY HOUSEHOLD THINGS ARE RAN A CERTAIN WAY,. AND I AM IN THE SAME SITUATION. IN THE HOUSE IT IS MYSELF,MY HUBBY, I HAVE 4 GIRLS THE 2 OLDER ONES(14 &11) ARE MY STEP DAUGHTERS AND THEY LIVE WITH US 1 DAUGHTER (10)THAT IS FROM MY PREVIOUS MARRIAGE AND MY BABY (5)THAT I HAD WITH MY CURRENT HUBBY. ANYWAYS MY OLDEST WHICH IS 14 BECAME VERY DISTANT BECAUSE HER MOTHER IS REALLY NOT THERE FOR THEM. THIS IS WHAT I SUGGEST YOU DO, FOR ONE WE ALL HAVE CHORES TO DO EVERYONE TAKES TURNS WASHING DISHES, CLEANING THE LIVING ROOM & CLEANS THE RESTROOM. I CLEAN THE HOUSE IN THE MID MORNING NOT VERY MESSY BUT ONCE EVERYONE GETS HOME IT IS HECTIC TO MAKE DINNER AND HELP WITH HOME WORK SO AFTER EVERYONE HAS DONE THEIR HOMEWORK AND EAT DINNER EVERYONE DOES THEIR CHORE. ANOTHER THING YOU NEED TO SPEND MORE FAMILY TIME TOGETHER AND I MEAN EVERYONE.  DO SOMETHING WETHER IT BE WATCH A MOVIE NIGHT OR PLAY BOARD GAMES OR CHARADES. WE HAVE DONE THIS AS A FAMILY FOR THE PAST3 YRS AND IT HAS HELPED HER TREMENDOUSLY. ANOTHER THING THAT I WOULD LIKE TO POINT OUT IS THAT I HAVE ALWAYS TOLD MY OLDEST AND ALL MY GIRLS IS NEVER HOLD ANYTHING INSIDE YOU NEED TO EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS, AND IT DOESNT MATTER WHO YOU TELL OR EVEN IF IT IS ABOUT ANYONE IN THE HOUSE ATLEAST YOU TELL SOMEONE. ANOTHER THING THAT WE HAVE IN OUR HOUSE IS ONCE A MONTH WE ALL HAVE A FAMILY MEETING AND YOU HAVE TO BE OPENED MINDED AND NOT YELL, AND ANYONE CAN SAY WHAT THEY FEEL ABOUT EACH OTHER WITHOUT ANY REPROCUSSIONS MEANING NO MATTER WHAT IS SAID YOU CANT GET MAD AT ANYONE YOU JUST SAY YOUR FEELINGS AND DISCUSS IT AND RESOLVE THE MATTER. THAT TECHNIQUE IS REALLY GOOD BUT REMEMBER THERE MIGHT BE SOMETHING THAT YOU DONT WANT TO HEAR BUT YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER NOT TO GET MAD BECAUSE THIS IS THE WAY THAT SHE FEELS. AND FOR ME THAT IS GOOD THERAPY WITHOUT HAVING TO SPEND MONEY ON A COUNSLER. REMINDER: YOU HAVE TO REALLY BE OPEN MINDED. I HOPE THIS ADIVCE HELPED YOU TALK TO YOUR HUBBY ABOUT IT AND SET A DATE FOR EVERYONE TO HAVE A FAMILY MEETING AND IT IS NOT ALWAYS BAD MEETINGS BUT ONCE YOU DO THIS ON REGULAR BASIS LATER YOU WILL FIND OUT ALL THAT THERE IS LEFT TO SAY IS GOOD THINGS NOT BAD,  AND ONCE EVERYTHING IS OUT IN THE OPEN ON WHAT IS BUGGING YOUR DAUGHTER SHE WILL COME AROUND MORE AND AS A PARENT YOU NEED TO TELL HER I LOVE YOU JUST TO REASSURE HER THAT SHE IS WANTED, AND PRAISE HER WHEN SHE DOES GOOD IN ANYTHING. JUST TO SHOW HER THAT SHE MEANS SOMETHING BUT I FEEL IT SHOULD COME MORE FROM YOUR HUBBY SO THAT WAY SHE CAN SEE FOR HERSELF THAT HE CARE AND DONT WORRY SHE WILL COME AROUND MY OLDEST HATED ME IN THE BEGINING AND NOW SHE CALLS ME MOM, THAT IS THE GREATEST FEELING IN THE WORLD WHEN SHE TOLD ME THAT. GOOD LUCK AND I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOUR FAMILY;

Answer 3

I have 2 boys that are 11 and 8 and a 10 month old daughter, my husband (my boys step dad) is out of town a lot so usually it just me and the kids.  The boys help me with everything.  They fold laundry, wash dishes, load the dishwasher, clean the cats litter box, take out the trash, clean the bathrooms, sweep, mop and they even can make bottles for their sister.  

I'm not a slave driver, they don't do all of this everyday and they don't do it by themselves, we split everything up and everyone helps.  Usually we will watch TV while we fold laundry or turn on the stereo while we make dinner or clean up the living room.  Basically, it's a family effort and when we're done, we'll go play outside or go to lunch or whatever.  Hope I gave you some helpful ideas, there is plenty a 13 year old can do.

Answer 4

Dishwasher or dishes, laundry, vacuum, weeding, cleaning up after pets, cleaning washroom and kitchen, mopping floors

Answer 5

Don't give her too much because her only job should be to take care of school work. Have her wash the dishes and sweep the floor. Give her things that don't take time out to do her work especially now that she is in grade school.

Answer 6

My niece is 13. Here are her chores,

1) Comb and braid her little sisters hair in the morning

2) Keep her room neat and clean

3) Sweep the kitchen floor once a week

4) Make her bed

5) Help her little sister with homework

Answer 7

My 12 year old son unloads the dishwasher, takes out the garbage and cleans one of the bathrooms.  Plus anything else that comes into my head.  :)

Answer 8

Sounds like there are other more serious issues than "what chores should my daughter do?"

I don't know if giving her more "jobs" is going to fix what's wrong.