What are good ways to stay neutral between divorcing family members & be supportive?

Question

Both the husband & wife were trying to put me in the middle. I say leave me out of it and they back off for a while and then start being demanding again.

I sat them both down and said I cannot be involved in your personal problems, I need to remain neutral for my kids' sake and your kids' sake because of all the interaction between families. I love you both and will not be forced to take sides.

Now my sister is refusing to talk to me or let the kids play together. My B.I.L. lets the kids play together and just doesn't involve me anymore in their problems.

My sister has plenty of friends she can "vent" with and discuss the marriage problems with. People she can cry with who love her.

Advice?

Answer 1

It sounds as if you're addressing the situation appropriately. Just stick to your guns and keep up with what you're already doing.  Emotions run high during a divorce and your sister is really not thinking rationally right now.  She will settle down eventually and you guys will be able to resume a more normal relationship.  It will get better with time, and you're doing the right thing by remaining cordial with your brother in law.  When children are involved, it's best to behave as adults in their presence and not expose them to the ugliness between their parents.

Answer 2

i say keep doing what you are doing. I would personally side with MY family member thats going through the divorce.,