What are points of feeling happy if one got engaged in arranged marriage?

Question

I really don;t understand the points why people become so much enthusiastic and feeling so much happiness if one got engaged with other? Even i don;t understand the points of happiness if one got engaged in arranged marriage? - You barely know the girl? So why people feel happy?

Answer 1

It is natural attraction towards the opposite s*x.

Whether it is arranged or not, marriage is a marriage.

Marriage takes place between Man and Woman.

It is the common sense, logic, observation and understanding makes a marriage successful. Understand each other, share and care, give and take, give love and get love, be supportive to each other.

That is good marriage, good relationship and lastly good life in this world of short life.

LIFE IS SHORT - TRY HARD TO MAKE IT SWEET.

Answer 2

As I understand it, in an arranged marriage, you meet the girl first and spend time (even if not much) getting to know her. If you don't like her, you tell your parents, "next!" and that's that.

Hopefully, your parents or people they trust know the girls you meet with. They will know the character of each girl and even her family background. Your parents will know what makes for good "marriage material."

If you look at western marriages, based on "love" you see nothing but heartache and divorce! People confuse physical attraction with love. They confuse a sweet personality with love. Then, when the attraction wanes or the sweet personality gets angry and screams, they think they have fallen out of love.

They never had true love to begin with.

Those who are willing to work through the tough times all say that their love changes - it deepens - they know true love.

So, either you can choose a cute girl who makes your heart flutter today or you can choose a girl your parents see will probably make you a very good wife.

(I should explain that I had this system of arrangement explained to me by an Indian fella who was expecting the "Babe Parade" to start at any time. =D )

Answer 3

I will never understand arranged marriage but it works for some cultures and I respect that. my friend is Hindu (sp) and her sister had an arranged marriage and is happily married with 2 children. In some cultures they are able to have choices of men that the family picks so it's not totally arranged but it still wouldn't be the same!!

Answer 4

You are asking a for a Western answer to an Eastern culture situation. When we here in the west get "engaged" , it is usually a happy time because we have known each other for some time and we are confirming our love for each other and showing our intent toward marriage to one another. our feelings are already developed for each other. Whereas in the Eastern cultures in an arranged marriage ,you may not even know your intended until you are told of it ,no time to check each other out freely. It would be understandable that you don't have those "points of happiness". The culture does not allow for it.

Answer 5

man marriages r made in heaven ,the westren people first fall in love and then marry but we indians first marry and then fall in love (in case of arranged marriages).When one gets engaged its the new beginning in life  a new chapter of life. and that should always b a welcomed wirh smile and with cheers.R u engaged ?