What are some good reasons to adopt a girl?

Question

my brothers and mom would like to adopt a girl, but my dad doesn't want to. he used to be the one who wanted to, but now its mom. there are 5 people in my family: i have 2 brothers, 11 and 6, and i am a girl, 13. i want a sister to be able to talk to and share my thoughts with and things. any other suggestions? how can i convince by dad otherwise?

Answer 1

they are cute and nice

girls laughing is much nicer than boys are

sugar and spice and all that, its true I think

Answer 2

Hope for the best and prepare for the worst.  You said you wanted to have a sister to be able to talk to and share my thoughts with and things.  Some sisters fight like cat and dog.  Do you willing to work that out.  Do you ready to give up all what you have now to share with the other person.  Will you be able to cope with your own jealousy if mom and dad even brothers give all the attentions they used to give to you to this new sister.  If the answer is yes, then yes, I think someone or some sister somewhere is need a good home to go to-your home.  Remember that daddy knows best!!

To adopt the other child is not mean you get to have a doll or object to talk or to play with.  That child is the other person that become equal as you.  She has a feeling and real.

Answer 3

1) It's nice to have a balance of the sexes, two boys & two girls!

2) Girls are less favored in many families & countries (due to cultural biases), so they are needing adoption, more.

3) Girls are less likely to need Special Education (just basic statistic)

4) Girls are less likely to get into fights at school or to go to juvenile hall (basic statistic)

5) Girls generally tend to be more emotionally aware than boys, so may fit better into your ongoing family system.

Just a few ideas.  Good luck!

Answer 4

My youngest son wants a little brother.  We keep telling him to pray about it & God will make it happen if it's His plan to.  We're not against it, we're just not willing to move forward right now (timing).

Wanting a sister to talk to is a good reason.  What are the other reasons you, your mom & brothers want to bring another girl into the family?  Go over those and pitch the best ones to him.

In the meantime pray about it & see if God can work in your dad's heart.

Answer 5

DADDY LIL'GIRL.

just the sound of it makes me teary eyed.

i have nine boys, yes nine Boys that dont lift the seat, dont give the hugs that a daddy loves,nine boys that do not look good in dresses and hair braids,that dont play tea party, that dont have doll houses.

GO TALK TO DADDY,TELL HEM YOU WANT A SISTER.

then show him this email.

Answer 6

saving a person from having to move from foster family to foster family (some bad ones).. or saving a kid from the poverty of a foreign country

aka. changing a life.

Answer 7

It may be less of a gender issue to your dad as it is an emotional and/or financial issue. Is he open to the idea of a boy rather than a girl? Chances are, it has nothing to do with the child being a girl.

Answer 8

you will be giving a child a home who may not get one anyways.  she will get a chance to have a family, instead of a life in an orphanage.

Answer 9

for one girls are to me anyhow more calmer and don't throw things or want to watch these nasty army movies

Answer 10

Your dad maybe having second thoughts for reasons that he doesn't want to discuss with the kids and can only be discussed and shared with your mom.  Adopting is a huge decision that can be very costly.  Your parents will workout what is right for them and your family.  But it has to be their decision.

Answer 11

I'm afraid this is your parents decision, and trying to convince an adult about a serious issue like parenting is just not ethical.  It can backfire for the child, which would be terrible.

All you can do is state your preferences -- maybe call a family meeting to discuss it.  Once your feelings are clear, then I suggest you try to leave it alone.

Adopting a child is not about giving someone a sister, as much as you want that.  It is about a family wanting to parent another child, then choosing adoption as the way they wish to make that happen.

And despite the earlier poster's thoughts, it is not about "saving" a child from anything.  This puts such an unrealistic expectation on the child, and puts such a creepy "You owe me" slant on adoption.  This child owes no one anything.  Who can possibly fill the shoes of someone who was "saved"?  And how horrible a person must be to have to be "saved".  It truly gives me the creeps to hear someone talk about adoption and saving a child in the same breath.  Who would want that legacy?

Children deserve respect.  Children deserve to know that their parent wanted a child to love and take care of, and therefore, they are!  Period.

So....try to think about this "girl" you want to be your sister.  Be kind and loving to her -- even now -- whoever she might be, and let her be.  If she is meant to be your sister, it will happen.  If not, I am sure there must be some neighbors or church friends who could become a bigger part of your life.  Or maybe you can be a "big sister" by volunteering at your local school, library, shelter or hospital, and make a real difference in the lives of many girls (and boys!).

Answer 12

well i was adopted...so yeah.

If he really wants to have a child that likes sprts you guys should get the baby around the sport places and they will thrive around the enviorment.

Answer 13

SIT DOWN AND TELL HIM HAD YOU FEEL ABOUT HAVE 2 BROTHERS AND LET HIM KNOW HOW GREAT IT WOULD BE HAVING A LITTLE GIRL THAT CAN LOVE HIM AS MUCH AS YOU DO. IT WOULD BE DAD'S LITTLE GIRL. AND THAT HAVING A SISTER WILL HELP WITH A THE GIRL THINGS THAT DADS DON'T LIKE HAVING TO TALK ABOUT. AND LET HIM KNOW THAT IT TAKES A REAL SPECIAL PERSON TO HAVE A FAMILY AND OPEN UP HIS HOME AND HEART TO GIVE TO SOME BODY ELSE. TALK TO HIM HE MAY BE AFRAID HE COULD NOT GIVE EVERYBODY THE LOVE ,HE WANTS TO TO EVERYBODY IF THEIR IS SOMEBODY ELSE. JUST TELL HIM YOU KNOW HE WOULD MAKE A REAL GOOOD DA TO A LITTLE GIRL. BECAUSE YOU KNOW THIS ,BECAUSE HE HAS RASIED THE PRETTIES AND THE BRIGHTNESS DAUGHTER IN THE WORLD.AND YOU KNOW HE COULD DO IT AGAIN WITH A OTHER SOPECIAL LITTLE GIRL.