What are some good ways to pick a second husband after discarding the first one?

Question

I would not like to make the same mistake twice!

Answer 1

Since you are into DISCARDING  people then maybe you were the mistake that he married! Maybe you should stay single. No Im not mad at you but your wording of your question says alot! And already looking for a replacement? Why dont you let it happen and find love this time and not just latch on the next available replacement.Thats kind of shallow don't you think?

Answer 2

This is a fair question, and your respondents took it too lightly.  My list:

1.  No kids left to raise, or better yet, none at all

2.  Non-smoker

3.  Have a job he liked

4.  Be VERY educated, and VERY bright.

5   Have a great sense of humor, be kind, non-abusive, (obviously).  Even tempered, not given to fits of swearing...i.e., not a nut case.

6.  Not fat, nice smile, but being handsome wasn't necessary.... healthy was.

7.  Hopefully somewhat adventuresome, liking to travel.

8.  And he had to like himself, and who he himself was...

Other things are somewhat intangable.... Wasn't going to wish to be a parent, so if the guy wanted babies, he was eliminated. And if I dated the guy a few times, and I sensed insincerity, or that he was just hunting for a boinking buddy, I bailed before it got to the second or third date.  By the third date, likely you'd have an idea if you wished to see this person again.

Hope this helped... worked for me.

  

Answer 3

Think of the total opposite of your ex, then find someone to date that meets in the middle!

Answer 4

Start by being confident about what you want out of a relationship and a life partner.  Make sure you're realistic, as you'll never find the man for you if you're expecting perfection.  You should be aware of what good qualities are a must and what negative qualities and habits you know you won't be willing to compromise on.  Once you've determined this, don't settle for anything less.  Don't go on an all-out "husband-hunt".  That can scare some really good men away in a hurry.  Spend your time being involved in activities or groups that would be appealing to both you and the type of man you're interested in finding.  Eventually, you'll come across "your" man.

Answer 5

Where are you looking to upgrade?  Do you want one with a fat bank account or would you like a boy toy?

"Husbands should be like Kleenex: soft, strong and disposable." ---Mrs. White in Clue(1985)

Answer 6

Let me guess, you found him at the bars, dance club, internet, etc.

If you are looking for a guy that is nice, committed, and moral... You need to head to your local Church.  That is where we hang out.  Not going to find us at the bars.  Those guys are just looking for one thing...

Answer 7

Don't remarry-

Answer 8

choosing a second husband is liking hitting your thumb hammering the same nail, the defenition of insanity is doing the same thing expecting different results.

Answer 9

Yes, as your fellow female said, how many zeros in his checking? This is typical women of modern US. But, I would suggest that you hold on the finding the perfect husband. Unless you are a true gold digger, then follow the money. You will not find happiness, but who's keeping track, not you.

Take some time to find YOU. The perfect YOU. Travel, go to school, find your passion! get over the idea that your soul mate is out there just waiting for you. There is not mate that can make you feel complete. just yourself. Marriage is way overrated.

Answer 10

Don't look for another husband. Just have fun and date. When the right man comes along, you'll know. No need to be hunting for husband number 2.

Answer 11

find someone you can respect without a need for anything from them except who they are and how they treat you

if you go looking for zeroes, behind the paycheck or in the bank, that is exactly what you'll find and probably what you'll get

Answer 12

At this point it is all about you so pick one that has enough money to make you happier when you discard him.

Answer 13

find the opposite of your first hubby  

Answer 14

How many zero's are in his check book

Answer 15

Look back on your first marriage and the mistakes that were made.

See how the next relationship is going( the same,get out) learn from your past...Only you have control of your life.

Good Luck!!

Answer 16

Pick someone that is the total opposite next time.  Women seem to be attracted to the same kind of man, over and over.

Answer 17

look at a guy you like and suggest going outside around the back! Skirt up, panties down, wham bang! there you go!