What are some lessons that are just impossible to learn.....?

Question

as a child, you know, those lessons that take maturity and age to realize.

"It's the thought that counts" regarding gifts.

Love is just like it is in all those sweeping epic romantic movies, (it takes experience to get this one, and then more years until you find out it REALLY can be like those movies.)

any others?

Answer 1

Treat others as you would like them to treat you!

Answer 2

For the young:  Contrary to popular belief, we do not suddenly gain all the knowledge in the universe at 13, 16, 18, or 21 years of age.  If we want that knowledge, we have to swallow our pride and ask the old folks who have been there and seen/done it themselves.

For the older folk:  The young don't need their hands held all the time.  We have to make our own mistakes and fall down a few times if we are to learn anything of life before we're on our own.

For everyone:  "I told you so" is not a necessary phrase.  A little kindness, compassion, and understanding won't kill anyone but it sure could keep someone from kicking your butt!

Answer 3

Guilt by association, and being stereotyped.

In my teen years, I was fairly gothic.  I guess its called emo now.  I wore lots of black, black makeup and nail polish, long hair, chains on my back pack.

I really just thought it was cool and not mainstream.  I was a bit of an out cast by nature.  

My parents as well as several other adults in my life accused me of drugs and satan worship because one person that I sometimes talked to at school only was Wiccan and smoked pot.

I hated that stereo type, but its true.  You are judged by the people you hang out with, or the people you dress like, or whatever.

I didnt fully realize it until I landed a really cool job.  During my 3 month training period, I didnt have to wear the uniform because they were too cheap to buy one until they knew I was staying.  And I got judged to be all those things...  a drug dealer, a satan worshiper and all that.  Even though I was dressing modestly, because I had a different style I was perceived as different, wrong, evil.

I wish the world wasnt like that.

Answer 4

Your parents do things for your own good     (ex. 13 yr old not understanding why she cant date a 20 y/o. OR 3 yr old not being able to run around the side of a pool)

Answer 5

Walk away........in tough situations it is sometimes better to just walk away.

Answer 6

To share.  Some adults still don't get that one.

Answer 7

"It's better to give than to receive"

Answer 8

The lessons of Life are those that are too difficult to learn from but not at all  impossible.

Answer 9

The lesson of Life

Answer 10

just because you like someone doesn't mean they have to like you back

and the flipside of that: just because someone likes you doesn't obligate you to them - although you should be sensitive in dealing with them just the same and not take advantage.

sometimes you're getting picked on because you're not behaving well - it's NOT just that the kid doing the bullying has issues.

someone has to earn everything in this world, and if it's not you then someone's carrying you.

maths skills are necessary and important in real life (i teach struggling kids and nearly all of the time the reason they're failing maths is because they can't see the point in putting any effort in.  these are the kids who will always be short-changed).

grownups usually have reasons why they've done things in the order or manner that they have.  they just don't always explain them to the kids, and they aren't always good reasons.

crying about problems doesn't automatically result in someone coming to fix them for you.

however much they cramp your style, you NEED your parents.

Answer 11

"This hurts me more than it hurts you." In reference to giving punishments of any kind.

And "life is not fair".

Answer 12

treat others how you would want to be treated

Kids can be cruel and it took me a long time to learn  to just keep my mouth shut and walk away

and also what a true friend really is.

Answer 13

"Giving is more fulfilling than receiving.  It makes you feel good to give"

"Give with a cheerful heart"

"Be the bigger person"

All of these and some others took me many years to understand and live by.  I still have a hard time with them, but not near as much as I did as a child or teenager.

-Add-

Foxyrock has another great one:  "Mom and Dad know best and do what is in your best interest".  That one took me YEARS to understand and now I'm beginning to understand it as I am now a mother myself.

Answer 14

"Good guys don't always win like on television"

"Happily ever after is a myth"

"Most things in life are scary in the beginning, sad in the end but it's what is in the middle that counts the most"

Answer 15

Your parents usually do know whats best. I really hate that one. I have my own child now, and I'm still learning that one!

Answer 16

I think that there are many things that parents can't protect their kids from and they just need to experience it to learn from it or understand it....I am the type of parent that I try to explain everything to my kids...I don't just tell them it has to be this way cause I say so.....they need to understand...

this is one thing that I always think of when I think of my kids....we all know that we don't want our kids to be heart or heart broken but we also know that they need to experience it, you can't always shelter them....My husband swears he will kick any boys *** that breaks our daughters heart but you know what?! Its gonna happen and we just have to be there for her when it does happen...or if our kids date someone we do not approve of...hey you have to let it go and let them have that experience and hope that we were wrong and our kids are safe and happy....but things like s*x, smoking, drugs, teen pregnancy...I will take them to hospital, clinics, group homes, woman's shelters if I have too so that they can SEE with their own eyes what happens in the end and that that is not what I want for them...you can't just tell them......they will find out for themselves the hard way unfortunately....