What are some of the reasons parents get divorced??

Question

ok. so im writing a story.and in the story the parents are getting a divorce. I just havnt figured out why yet, im concidering the reason of money, but I dont want them to be poor. I also want them to be nice characters, not drunks, druggies, ect. and also the dad is the one that wants to get a divorce,

and I cant have them not love eachother, cuz im making them get back together in the end. :)

please hellpp!! :)

Answer 1

Well in my parents case, it was my mom that left but you could switch it around. =)

My mom left because although she loved my dad, certain things about him bothered her and she felt that she had had enough of it. So now my dad is trying to perfect who he is for my mom. Maybe something like that could work for your story.

Answer 2

Just keep reading Yahoo questions! cheating, not taking the trash out, nagging, fighting about money or how to raise the kids, who wants s*x/ who doesn't , in laws, jealous relatives, laziness, drinks too much, parties with friends too much, gambles, does drugs.

Answer 3

talk to each of them separately and tell them how it will affect you allot of times parents think "oh he or she will be ok" let them know it wont be ok you wont be ok

Answer 4

This  was  in  a  movie.  They  married  young,  she only  worked part  time.  Then  he  got  richer  and  richer. They had  more then  ever  before.  He got  wrapped  up in the  good  life  and  she  was  a  more  simple  person.  He  decided  she  didnt  fit  his life  style  any  more. They divorced.  She  went on  and became  a sucessful real esstate  person.  She  had  hard  times  at  first  and  had to live  with  relatives  at  first. Something  happens  to his  job,  it ends  and  now  hes on the  street.  They  meet  again and  he  repents  being  so mean to her. She  has  him  work for her till she is  sure he is not trying to use  her.   The  end

Answer 5

You could make it about a  couple that married way too young, so once married realized, or the husband realized that he still wanted to travel and study more and just have the freedom to go out. Being married and with her wife being pregnant and so many bills and responsabilities, he couldn´t do anything except work.

So they got divorced...however, as he got to travel and study on his master´s and going out with his friends, realized that he missed his wife and his baby. So he went back with her and they got back together.

Answer 6

People get divorced for lots of reasons like

Infidelity

Abuse

Lack of communication

Answer 7

There are so many reason's people get divorced, I would guess the most popular reason people get divorced is because they loose themselves in the relationship.  Often people stop doing the things that make them who they are, in turn they start resenting the other person cause they want to do those things.  The spouse in turn wonder's who they married as they are not the same person they fell in love with etc etc.  

Sometimes couples can work this out, other times they lack the communication to overcome it.  

Answer 8

Wow, that is a good question. I married at age 20 after dating for 5 years to stay married until death, and I have always said that divorce is not an option. Let me tell you at times, I could easily say divorce was best, but my husband is good at being the first to apologize and kiss me goodnight no matter how mad I get at him. Very seldom do we ever argue, but after we've had a child, I think its the discipline area that we disagree on more than anything. When I read the list of problems we have after a divorce, its really easier to stay in a marriage and work it out. Sometimes, I think after so many years, we take each other for granted. We become so comfortable with each other and we begin seeing everything wrong with each other instead of what we fell in love with, which is so wrong of us.

I think one believes that divorce is the easy way out or the only way to fix the problem, but on the other hand, its another list of problems waiting once you file for divorce.

I heard a preacher say, the first 15 years of marriage were rough, but the last 15 years were the best.

I think if we just learn how to talk things out and don't let issues build up inside. Probably not enough communication is one reason people divorce.

I am going to write your list of the problems that we face after a divorce and put it on my bulletin to remind me.

Thanks for reminding us the reasons we should work harder at our marriages.

In my opinion, as a general statement, I think it is a result of a lack of personal education. We go to school and learn math, reading, etc. only to learn that we still need to develop a strong character and learn about life's virtues to make the picture complete.

Many of us get that education from our parents, and in earlier years, if our parent's weren't that great teachers, our cousins, aunts, neighbors, etc. would pick up the ball. But in today's disconnected society where neighbors hardly wave hello, and aunts and grandma live 1,000 miles away, not everyone gets what they need.

For me personally, I did not date much when I was younger. Then when I was 26 and there was someone wanting to marry me, I was like "ok." I never thought I would do that but it just seemed like the right thing to do at the time.

But as it turned out it was a premature descion because I did not know enough about relationships and what I needed out of one. I don't regret it. Now that I know more about myself and what I need I know I made the right choice.

Although on that same token, now that I am more mature and have more relational skills, I can see how if we choose to respect each other's differences, we could have made it work. I am not certain that either of us had the will and that's what made the difference.

Answer 9

You need to be more realistic here. Parents that get a divorce don't really love each other. If they did, they wouldn't be getting a divorce and they would be doing what it takes to keep their marriage and family together.

So the only way to make this story the way you want it to be is to make the dad be a selfish dad who doesn't care for the family, but himself, and then he realizes that being alone is not what he wanted. It was always his family he wanted. He just didn't know how to really love them by showing them, spending time with them....and all this time, he was doing it the wrong way, which was his way.

I don't know....hope this helps you out. It kind of confused me a bit.  

Answer 10

bored with each other and have no communications. they don't work together cleaning the house because the man thinks that the woman should do everything. and i mean everything just because they are married and he feels she should give him " attention" even if she is not in the mood.

that's how it used to be with my husband and i when we were first married. now we got back together and he stills wants s*x all the time but i tell him no now and he has to respect that.

Answer 11

Okay... a divorce story with nice characters who get back together in the end.  Money and infidelity are the top two causes of divorce today.  Why not make it something not quite typical?  One of them returns to their home country to care for an ailing parent and ends up being there longer than planned, like a couple of years.  Despite phone calls, a couple of visits and every effort to keep things together they just drift apart and end up divorced.  I have no idea how they end up back together... I'll let you come up with that part.  Good luck on your story!

Answer 12

Husband knocked up another woman in another state and tried to pull off two marriages at once.

Answer 13

well, one reason that i can think of is that maybe the mom has a job that requires her to leave town or even state alot. maybe the husband has trust issues and thinks that while she's gone she's cheating on him. but then towards the end, realizes that she isn't. just a thought, maybe she leaves her job at the end just to be with him and he feels so much better that he starts trying harder and gets a really good job that pays alot alot. okay maybe i got carried away. =)

just a suggestion though.