What are some right things to do for an adopted/surro baby?

Question

I am looking for answers from adoptees...hopefully to help us prevent emotional issues with her later. We already know we are going to tell her the truth about where she came from, and she will know her surrogate mother is her bio mom and that she has sisters. But from children who maybe have lived this, do you have any other recommendations that would have made you feel better about it? I know some may have negative opinions of the whole thing, but I want to know if there is any advice out there. Thanks!

Answer 1

Some good books to read are: "20 things adoptive kids wished their parents knew", "the primal wound", stuff like that.

Answer 2

do this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YIEDGL6wm...

Answer 3

Ok first congrats on the new baby!

I think you are doing the right thing by telling her. My parents were always honest about mine and I am glad they were. However, no matter how much attention you give your child and love you show them, they may act out.  I did. I didn't do drugs or anything like that, but I did bad in school and I had a really smart mouth.  I did it because I felt abandoned and unwanted by the person who had carried me, who was supposed to have loved me so much she gave me up.  At seven I did not understand how if someone loved me they could give me up.  I was an angry child with a chip on my shoulder.  My parents then started taking my to a counsler.  I did not like it at first, but after the first two appointments it really started to help.  She was someone who I could express my feelings to about the situation without worrying if I was going to hurt my parents' feelings.  All you can really do is just give them all your love and support and let them know you love them and that no matter what you will be there.  Mine did and now that I am older (24) I understand things much better and realize I could not have had a better set of parents if they had had me naturally.   Best of Luck!