What are some things to look into when adopting a child?

Question

I am considering adopting a child because naturally I can not have my own (infertile). I am looking into adopting a child from my state's (MD) children's social services department simply because I understand the need for foster and adoptive parents in the area. I would like to know from other adoptive parents some things I need to do to start preparing and what should I look into when beginning the process? I know that it can take some time to actually become an adoptive parent and I am not looking to begin the process for a few months. I just want to get myself prepared. Also, I am 22 years old soon to be 23. What age were some of you when you decided to adopt or become an adoptive parent?

Answer 1

First place to look and read about adoptions is your library. You will find alot of information and also questions to ask anyone that you come into contact with in your effort to adopt. We adopted two children many years ago, in fact we now have three grandchildren. When my son's foster mother gave us the papers we needed when we pick him up, they was a note she had written to him that should also be addressed to every adopted foster child, not of my flesh, not of my blood, not from under my heart, but always in my heart and thoughts forever.

There really isn't any age to become adoptive parents, when a child can receive a good home and everything needed for a good life by the two of you or a single person is the time to offer your life of support for that child and adopt.

Answer 2

God bless you for wanting to adopt.  I'm not sure what the "requirements" may be in your state, but I applaud your efforts to look into everything beforehand.

My cousin was adopted, and just recently (after her adoptive father's death) found her biological father...........the mother did not want any contact.  She is TOTALLY adamant that her adoptive parents are her "real" parents, and the bond is not disputable.  I would love to adopt as well, only because I am an older mom (42) and I don't want my 3 year old son to be an only child, but I haven't looked into it yet.

Answer 3

to just give it love pure love

Answer 4

Well get ahold of a local social worker in your area, they will help you thru the process.  Be prepared for a long road.  Fortunately,there is a HUGE process, background checks, lifestyle evaluations, even home inspections.  I don't think there is a actual age, as long as you meet certain, income/housing requirements you should be fine.

Now only if natural parents would have to go through this, then maybe we wouldn't have so many children in foster care.  I applaud you for wanting to adopt. Good luck to you