What are some ways to relieve the stress from family?

Question

My family and I don't get along very well.We actually are pretty opposite people and don't communicate at all.When we try to communicate it usually ends up in an argument or a fight which mostly revolves around me,so I try to seclude myself as much as possible.When this happens,very hurtful,stressful,and judgmental things are said.I would like to know a way to deal with the stress of family until the situation changes.I am in the process of finding a place but money doesn't really grow on trees.I know there is no way to avoid them until i move,but what is a way i can deal with the stress?It's tearing me apart and really effecting me mentally,emotionally,and physically.I am soon to be married,and he is absolutely great,supportive and understanding...but it's effecting me so much that it's effecting my relationship.We are moving in together,but as i said money is tight but we are really trying.Any help or suggestions is helpful and very much appreciated Thank you!

Answer 1

Time outs are a wonderful thing. It takes two to argue. Listen a lot and talk very little. Do not defend, deny, etc. You can take a deep breath, and get out for a walk, a drive, a shower, etc. Only you can control what you do and how you feel. Take your power back and step back to gain some objectivitiy so they do not get under your skin. Work on some good problem-solving -- maybe there is something you can do to be the hero here. Maybe everyone is as unhappy as you are. Hang in there. Use excellent birth control. Sign up for college. Find much to do to keep you busy and out from under the radar.  

Answer 2

dear almost every family have contraversies and problems and difficulty regarding money views and igo.

but everybody needs to tackle with

y said its all around u and u feel very stress and want to deal with simple and best way is that u bound yourself with work it can be anything like u can do cleaning and gardning and some art anything which demand care and time u can do.

then 2nd u can watch tv and movies and can interect with your to be husband

thats it from me dear i wish u have a happy married life and happy fdship day.

Answer 3

be strong and just try to be away from the house wen they r around. you could also try talking to a girlfriend just to release stress until u move out.if an argument starts u can just walk out  and just keep walking until u feel better then go home by the time u go home they probably all been calmed down a bit.

Answer 4

I don't know how old you are, but please focus on a goal, something you love which will lead to your independence; finish school and then LEAVE. you create the life you want to live, it's what i always say to myself, sadly, i'm going thru' the same, but it won't be long...and while you're still with them, pretend (in your mind) they are like your business partners, not a faimily. that way you won't get emotionally hurt. i do it and it helps. now, take charge of your life!