What are the average effects on your partner after having s*x reassignment surgery?

Question

i am 17 i got married to my wife 4 months ago. i am wanting to get s*x reassignment surgery in the next couple of years i am pre T and im wanting to know if me and my wife will most likly make it through this.

Answer 1

Are you and your spouse using the same "Italygirl" account to ask questions? Or are you both thinking about transitioning? I noticed that elsewhere you asked for information about hormone replacement therapy and s*x reassignment surgery for yourself.

I only ask this because if you are both considering transition, that will probably increase the chances you will stay together. Though not guaranteed, since you both will have a lot on your minds, and be doing some serious growing -- the chance of growing apart is a big issue with ANY life transition. But having a spouse who has a reasonable level of understanding about transition and the experience of being transsexual certainly helps.

Either way, i have yet to see hard statistics on how many relationships survive transition, but i can at least say i've seen a number of folks go through the process, and i feel like its a flip of the coin. 50% survive transition, about 50% don't. Of those that survive factors that contribute to sustainability of the relationship include

* good communication

* the transitioning spouse learning to not be too consumed by their own transition. Yes, its a big deal, but no it is not the center of the universe!

* the non-transitioning spouse (if there is one??) taking space for their own self care and process around the changes. Being understanding is important, but being self-sacrificing will ultimately help no one.

* prioritize quality time. most long term relationships don't do this enough, but taking out time to do fun things together that you both enjoy that celebrate your relationship are really important, especially when going through changes.

Answer 2

If your wife knew before she married you, there may be a faint glimmer of hope. Otherwise, she married a man, not a women. Therefore she will most likely want to remain married to a man.

If she were attracted to women, she wouldn't have married you.

Answer 3

at least she wont look L*****n.