What are the biggest disasters/ money wasting ideas you had at your wedding?

Question

hi

I'm planning my wedding which will happen next year! from experience what were the worst ideas/ money wasted ideas you had or have seen?

Answer 1

The worst idea (by my opinion) is choosing the bridesmaid dresses without seeing what they look like on the bridesmaids and not asking the bridesmaids if they actualyl like the dresses. The worst thing EVER is being a bridesmaid in an ugly dress that you had to pay for yourself! The second worst thing is requiring dyed shoes to match the ugly dress; not all bridesmaids have the same sized feet and let me tell you, bleeding on your dyed shoes is NOT a pretty thing!

My BM and I picked out their dress together, they all agreed on a dress they like, I am paying for the dresses and they can wear whatever shoes they want. That seems pretty fair to me.

Otherwise i guess your idea of wasted money would depend on your budget. Can't help with that, sorry!

Good luck girl, have fun planning!!!  

Answer 2

Wedding favors! You agonize over them and can't get rid of them. They are also usually a brutal waste of time.

At a friends wedding they had a carrot cake covered in fondant. The cake was raw in the middle and fondant tastes so bad that nobody ate it.

Answer 3

I was at a wedding recently that didn't have enough seating. The bride wanted an hors d'oeuvre reception with lots of mingling (like a cocktail party), but people didn't know that and immediately claimed seats. There were lots of people who didn't have anywhere to set their plates! It was awkward as h**l - make sure you have a seat for every person!

Answer 4

I picked my wedding dress in gold and my hubby had a gold tie with black suit, the bridesmaids and ushers all wore what they like, as it happened they all wore blue ties of a similar shade so blended in well.  No point sweating the small stuff.  

My photographer was expensive yet failed to take the key photos that I would have liked, i.e. myself and siblings, myself and parents, myself with siblings and parents etc.  Its not often the family gets together all dolled up and it would have been nice to have some photos of the family without my hubby on ;-)  The wedding album went straight in a drawer and I've never looked at it since.

The thing I regret most was not booking a hotel on the night but getting a taxi the 5 miles back home, just not the same.  I stayed over when my sister got married a similar distance away and it was great everyone meeting for breakfast again the next day and congratulating the bride and groom on their first full day of marriage.

Answer 5

Disaster = bridesmaids or maid of honor that will cause drama. Do not ask anyone into your wedding party out of obligation or the fact that you promised in sixth grade to be each other's MOH or something. Think long and hard and have the people who will most cheer and support you and your marriage and be of the most help if you need their help.

If I had it to do over I would have had my best guy friends -- one from high school and one from college - as my attendants and canned the catty girls altogether. That's what my heart wanted, but guy attendants on the bride's side were unheard of back then (it's my sweet 16 anniversary today!)

That is really the only thing wrong with my wedding, looking back, my high school bff was my maid of honor and she created drama and made it all about her in so many ways. She mutinied about my dress selection and vision for a summer garden wedding and she and the bridesmaid were in shiny teal taffeta for my afternoon outdoor wedding when I'd picked out celedon linen and silk.

But, whatever dude. ;-) We're still happily married and going on and on.  

Answer 6

in my opinon, hiring a DJ.  You can usually buy speakers for less than a DJ costs and can hook up a computer. Set your playlist (thisd way no one can request some song you hate as well) and maybe designate someone to keep an eye on it, (or pause between your first dance and father-daugter etc).  This is what we are doing.  instead of $125 per hour for a Dj (for a 4 hour reception and one hour to set up one to tear downt hat would be $750 we're spending $250)

EDIT: I don't mean it's a disaster people I mean a DJ as the biggest waste of money.

The biggest disaster I saw was my cousin's wedding cake.  She went with cheesecake and before we even got to the reception it had collapsed.  Apparently when your WHOLE cake is cheescake it does that.

Answer 7

my wife

Answer 8

Hiring Gary Glitter to play at the reception.

Answer 9

inviting too many people !!

we invited too many people - some of them we havent even seen since then - try to put the numbers as down as possible

especially work colleagues and old uni friends who dont keep in touch that much. or your friends' friends etc etc...

also if there is anyone you think that might take offence say you would love to invite them but you are keeping the numbers down.

you can also save money by having hand made cards... is tehre someone artistic in your family ? get them to help you make a card design... buy them the raw materials and they will do a grand job (hopefully!)

good luck.... and remember its the bride and groom's unision that is the most important t hing about a wedding... nothing else matters....

Answer 10

Worst Ideas and Waste of money

Flowers because they die. Use silk flowers if you can the look the same and cost the same.

Putting people who cause drama in your wedding party

Answer 11

My sister in law, Jocelyn, had a gorgeous ice sculpture at her reception...it would have been fine except someone set up a buffet table that held all the hot food in the warming pots so it was like an extra 50 degrees within 5 feet of the table so the ice sculpture lasted about half an hour before it looked like a deformed alien.

I don't have any really good storied because I've only been to three, well four (one friend just got married for the second time), weddings. And the brides were my really close best friends and we're all way too manic and obsessive to have let anything go wrong or to have anything less than perfect. I even had shot glasses with mine and my husband's wedding date on it and it was made of the heavy high quality glass and everyone loved them - and my husband thought they'd be a waste.  

Answer 12

Oh - I have a list, lol, but here are my top three.

Homemade cake - unless you have firsthand knowledge of someone's cake baking and decorating skills, don't trust 'em!

Sparkler Exit - alcohol and sparklers - that's just a lawsuit waiting to happen. Stick to bubbles, lol.

Wedding Planner - not all of them, of course, but if you do decide to get one, make sure it's not some girl who's only credentials is having every episode of "Platinum Weddings" Tivo'd. Most catering companies and banquet spaces will have a coordinaor or banquet manager there to oversee the details of the reception - many churches will too.

Answer 13

I find favors to be a big waste of money.  At my wedding the people setting up the tables forgot to put them out and nobody noticed until everyone was cleaning up the hall afterward.  I don't think anyone missed them (it was candy, so it did get eaten eventually, but it would have been money we could have spent elsewhere) so I would not do favors again if I had it to do all over again.

It seems to be one of those things that brides agonize over, but only little children at birthday parties really care about getting favors, and at a vast majority of weddings I've been a guest at, the favors have been left on tables or dropped in a drawer at home to be forgotten.  The worst I ever saw was a wedding where the bride and her maids had spent days hand-weaving tiny dream-catchers for the guests.  When I left I happened to look into the wastebasket right by the exit door - full of little dream-catchers.  I threw some napkins of top of the pile so the wedding party would hopefully not see how much of their hard work had gone to waste, literally.

Answer 14

my balloon/.table dressing people never showed.

make sure its a reputable company and make sure you keep in regular contact, ring them the day before.

yeah and favours, i got loads left, no one wanted them, wel, not many anyway., just the kids