What are the chances of ur husband cheating again??

Question

If you were with ur husband for 4 years and he cheated on you half of the time...saids hes changed and will not hurt you again, but has said that before and has continued. Do you believe him? or think that once a cheater always a cheater people don't change? Also he gets mad because its only been 6 months since hes did something bad...and u cant trust him. Sometimes he shows the signs of cheating and is a good lier. I like to know what peoples in takes are...Please if u have nothing nice to say dont say it a all...thank you for your help!!!

Answer 1

My Guess is that he is a s*x Addict and it is ingrained in his system to cheat and lie.  Although this sounds harsh, it probably is the truth.  Sexual addiction is a powerful thing and has a life of it's own.  Even if he wants to make the right choices, he may feel powerless to do the right thing and fall into a shame cycle which feeds and fuels his addiction.  

If he truly is a s*x addict, he will not recognize it own his own and denial a strong coping mechanism that shrouds the truth.  It is best to research sexual addiction and take an inventory.  Additionally, addicts come in pairs, and you may also need to inventory for co-addiction.

Patrick Carnes has some good books on the topic and provides resources for help.

Answer 2

If that was me i would have left after he cheated the first time.

After 4 yrs of cheating i doubt very much he will change.

You deserve better.

Answer 3

he can change aslong as you know you can keep him happy. You need to make sure you are offering what he wants. if u are then he will change for you. You will need to loosin the leash very quickly too or he will leave anyway...

hope that helps

Answer 4

Of course he'll stop cheating someday, but there is no telling when that will be, you just have to decide how long your gonna stick around, its a miserable way to exist, but you'll know when your ready to leave...when being with him hurts more than being without him ! The reality of it all is that it has absolutely nothing to do with you, its all about him, and there is nothing you can do to "make " him stop. Well.... except leave him, its not cheating when there is no one sitting home going through h**l wondering where he is etc.. etc. takes the thrill right out of it. It hurts like h**l, but, its so worth it once you really,really realize it wasn't about you, and its his problem, no longer yours! Best of Luck to You !

Answer 5

I think he have a personality can't stay with one woman, man like that will cheat non-stop. They do feel sorry, but will do it again & again. They don't see the value of family. It is very hard to change them. But if they fail hard one big time, they may. eg. He have car accident, and his wife still here for him, he make wake up and see the value of family.  

Answer 6

Of course he will cheat again.  He got away with it all those other times, didn't he?

Answer 7

Number one, the guy obviously has a track record for cheating behavior. The fact you can't trust him, even if he says, its been 6 months tells me he isn't done cheating. Some guys get a rush from this, and if that is the case, you have a losing proposition. If it was a one time thing, you might be able to work it out with a lot of counselling to see why he is doing this, what he feels is missing in the marriage you both need to work on. Giving ultimatums doesn't always work, and some guys just dont care. They see it as ok, she said if I do it again she will leave me, so I might as well cheat. Its a lose/lose proposition. If this is your situation, and you feel you can't deal with it any longer, kick him to the curb. Life is short, and you should be happy, not living with a jerk who cheats. Too many nice men out there who want a wife, kids and the picket fence. Ask yourself what you really want, and I bet you want to be happy. Cheaters rarely change, if he cheats on you, he cheats on the one he is cheating with you on as well. Just a sad fact.  

Answer 8

Well if you keep taking him back after he cheats, then theirs a 100% chance he's going to do it again, in all reality technically you're allowing it, women know when their man is cheating they just stay in denial

Answer 9

well if you forgive him chances are that he will do it again! Why not  leave him!???