What are the emotional/mental reasons a married man would be unfaithful?

Question

I am not looking for man bashing here.

I want to know what situations set a man up for an affair?

I know in most cases, a guy doesnt go to work, see a hot babe and drop his pants. In most situations, a friendship or relationship developes first, the man ponders the pros and cons and sometimes ends up in an affair.

is it because he feels disrepsected by his wife? is he bored? is it a mid life crisis?

thank you for sharing.

Answer 1

Sometimes I think mid-life crisis will cause a man to cheat.

My dad cheated on my mom out of spite- he was angry with her and wanted to hurt her. There are many and varying reasons a person cheats.

Answer 2

because he is a total b*****d

Answer 3

Because he is a coward who can't communicate with his wife. Some reasons are he just wants his cake and eat it too.  s*x addiction.  I know some women will not like this answer, but I have to be honest.  Sometimes a relationship doesn't work out because one spouse let their looks go.  I am talking getting fat or poor hygiene. This happens to both genders in any relationship.  I have seen marriages fall apart because one spouse will take time to exercise, eat right and be healthy. The other half in a relationship gets sloppy, starts getting drunk and doesn't care about how they look.  This is not superficial because in a marriage both partners owe it to each other to please each other.  This is not an excuse to cheat, but I have to admit I have seen divorces caused by one partner not taking care of themselves and I couldn't blame the other for wanting to leave the marriage.

Answer 4

I know! A time that they cheat on a woman is apparently very often when some terrible tragedy has occured(i.e- the death of a loved one, diesease, etc.) and they think that the woman is too distracted to notice. They take advantage of every opportunity no matter how ****** up it is to do so. They do it because they want to and they can try to blame it on something else but that isn't the case, they just do it because they freaking want. Sad stuff.

Answer 5

I think it's just the nature of the beast, and the ability of some men to suppress those feelings, as opposed to acting on them.  I don't think men were meant to naturally be with one woman.  We are both vain creatures, male and female, so when we age, it's harder on women because the man needs "beauty" to "turn on" their hormones.  It's just nature, nothing against how women are.

For the man that can live with a woman happily for their whole lives, it's probably a genetic flaw that doesn't make them wander...

Answer 6

Standing next to Hilary.

Answer 7

why is it that this question is asked 200 times a day but has to be reworded to make it seem as if it was an original thought?

Answer 8

Probably because he's scared to have s*x with only one woman for the rest of his life.  Just because he cheats, it doesn't mean he doesn't love his wife.  Chances are, he'll realize that he doesn't want anyone else but his wife, and he'll stop the affair.

Answer 9

Your wife pisses you off and you go to work everyday and some honey with a big ol booty is always making you laugh and feel good.  Eventually something gets waxed.  Ask Senator Edwards for more details.

Answer 10

Thinks he is not getting enough s*x at home, mid life, tired of the same old thing or if his wife is giving him too much c**p they might use those all as excuses...

Really they may also do it because they feel wanted or some girl feeds their ego and they like it.

Answer 11

the MAIN reason a man drifts into an affair, or cheating as its called, is s*x. He is not getting enough of what he feels is "something new" at home. Its the newness. If a man is getting all the emotional support at home, as in making him feel like a man, proud, all that stuff that feeds the male ego, ....along with all the s*x, new things, surprises, kinky , or whatever! ...he will not stray. Highly unlikely.

This is why so many people do not understand that making a marriage work, is WORK. It takes ALOT Of effort on both parties, but i think even more so on the wife, as there is a lot more "support" she needs to provide the "male mind".

So it can be several things, but they all come down to, these things, one or several, being absent in the home.

good luck to you

Answer 12

well i think its because they get bored with us because im going through something similar and i think its because he is bored or doesnt want me anymore