What are the ground rules on boy-girl sleepovers?

Question

My sons are 7 and 5, the neighbor girl is 7 and i'm not sure how to handle the sleeping arrangements? I really didn't care, but my husbands nervous about it?

Answer 1

no ground rules, because it shouldn't even happen!

Answer 2

my daughter had a boy/girl sleepover at age 7. i had them sleep in the living room in sleeping bags. totally harmless, we checked on them before we turned in and all was good. but past the age of 7, its not recommended.

Answer 3

Separate mattresses in the lounge room and check on them. On no account should they be sharing a bed.

Answer 4

A little bit old for boy/girl sleep overs. If you must have them, separate rooms

Answer 5

I don't think that there is anything to worry about at that age. They should be fine as long as you keep them entertained with games, videos, music, and food of course. I wouldn't be too worried about it. Just try to get your husband maybe involved with activities with the kids so that he becomes more relaxed. Also I think that you should care a bit as they are growing and you never know what kind of a message that shows your boys. So your husband may be worried on that regard.

Answer 6

there 7. It will be fine. Plus, you are not the little girl's parents they are the ones that get worried. But they are little i am sure nothing will happen.

Answer 7

If its just for one night, then they can just sleep in sleeping bags out in the living room or something. They are too young to know or care. If its for more than one night, separate sleeping quarters may be in need.

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megan anne

Answer 8

Anyone who says absolutely not has another thing coming when they're children are older.  I say go for it!  If you're going to be entertaining and having a great time as a group there shouldn't be any problems.  I agree with the "slumber party" idea of everyone crashing in living room - kids love that!  I think beyond age 7 or 8 maybe do a little more thinking.

Answer 9

I'd just say to make it a "fake-over" where neighbor girl stays until 10:30 PM or 11:00 PM (or basically until she falls asleep) then comes back over in the early morning. That way, if the girl gets homesick or lonely in the separate sleeping room by herself, there won't be any trouble. Good luck!

Answer 10

Have her sleep in a guest room. Dont worry they are too young. If you dont have a guest room have them sleep in sleeping bags make it fun!

Answer 11

if their only 7 & 5 i doubt it will matter at all, dont they still treat girls as boys at that age anyway? lol

Answer 12

You never know what kids will say.  You need to make sure that there can be no allegations.  It's sad, but your hubby has every right to be nervous.

We have to address this kind of stuff at our church, due to the recent issues in the news... no adult is alone with any single child.  Might be a good rule in this case too.  Maybe have all the children sleep in an open room, like your living room, with your bedroom door open.

Answer 13

We haven't allowed boy-girl sleepovers, just for personal reasons.  But we have had to have a good friend's kids spend the weekend when there was a family emergency.  The girls and boys slept in different rooms.

Answer 14

I usually let my niece(8) and my nephew(6) spend the night  on the weekends. My son (6) has bunk beds so the boys go  in his room and my niece sleeps on the futon in the den. I would suggest they sleep in different rooms. Just to be safe I would supervise a movie for them to watch in the living room and after that make sure they get in bed. Unless it's an emergency or a family member I would steer clear of coed sleepovers.

Answer 15

Holy Over Reaction Batman!!!!

When I was little I had a best friend Matt, and we had sleep-overs all the time! Nothing wrong with it (at this point) we always camped out in the living room. I honestly don't see a problem with this.

If you are really worried have them sleep in a common area and just keep an eye (and ear!) on them.

I think such a friendship is a great thing, my friend and I were friends from about 6 or 7 and we are both close to 30!

Answer 16

It's not a good idea to encourage this kind of thing.  As a wise parent to your 2 sons, ask yourself this question, "What kind of long-term benefit will my sons gain from this type of boy-girl sleepover in the long run?  It may look and seem all innocent now, but what are you teaching your sons by allowing it?  If your husband isn't comfortable with it, I wouldn't try to initiate it.

Answer 17

The "ground rules" are you don't have boy girl sleep overs no matter what the age.

Answer 18

Theres nothing to worry about, their only little kids, they wont do anything bad. Just arrange it how you feel is good for them.

Answer 19

I'm sure nothing will happen, especially since they're still young. Just have the boys sleep on the floor and the girl on the couch and everything should be fine. If the boys change in a different room than the girl, no curiosity will be stirred. Entertainment is also the key. If you constantly have them busy with crafts, games, outdoor things etc, they'll be fine. Don't worry, they're young and just want to enjoy a fun sleepover. Hope this helps.

Answer 20

We trade out childcare with our friends.  Our kids sleep over there once a month and theirs with us once a month.  We put the older kids (two 6 yo girls and one 4yo boy) on a mattress in our family room but they sleep in their sleeping bags.  I usually lay on the sofa til they all fall asleep and then go upstairs.   We also occasionally switch childcare with our neighbors down the street.  They have a 8yo girl and 6 yo boy.  We use the same arrangement & have never had any problems.

Answer 21

sleep n didnt rooms parent n each girl with the mom boys with th dad

Answer 22

Their kinda yougn to be doing anything bad... so i guess just the normal don't stay up to late... different sleeping quaters maybe.