What are the key steps to becoming psychologically stronger?

Question

I'm very sensitive and emotional... I'm easily hurt psychologically and become sad/lonely. What are the key steps to becoming psychologically stronger?

Thanks...

Answer 1

My bigest Tip would be to forgiving.

There are very few realationships that dont have any kinks in them. Get over the one day that you were enemies, Let them know what it is you dont like, They Can equaling forgiving when your eyes wonder for a bit.

Dont make the small things into big thing and dont ignore the big things.

It may be a cleche but "Men (people) don't always see what they did wrong" and "Not all things that are done make much sense fighting about."

To work on becoming stronger try Dancing. It relives tension, reduces stress, and frees the body. Dont think about anything other than the song while dancing. And I'm Not talking about the dances that you can learn, jut move yoru body. (some prefer running or singing, etc, Find yours)

And my last thing... Dont think about acepting anything just live with it. It will be there tomarrow so change it, make it yours, and smile.

Answer 2

Try contacting Dr. Phil Mc Graw via Email. Googling his name will return his email and other details. hope this helps

Answer 3

taking good care of yourself, eating right, vitamins, excersize all of which will do wonders for your well being. sitting around moping is bad for you.

Don't hang out with people who make you feel bad find friends who care about you for who you are not what you can do for them

Answer 4

-realize that everyone has flaws. When someone attacks you on your flaws, remember they have just as many.

-there are so many people out there. If you make a mistake in front of some, consider everything a learning experiance to becoming the true you.

-learn all about yourself and your beliefs

-get educated and get confidence

Answer 5

As a social work major , the understanding of psychology is the Self- what is and isn't you. The better understanding of what is a part of you, and what makes you and thus your surroundings better, is when the "hurt" associated with sensitivity and emotion that you experience subsides and inevitably expires. Sadness and lonliness is in your control, remember. You said it yourself "you BECOME sad/lonely. You are the one that can choose to feel that, or not.

Answer 6

This was an Oprah pick a number of years ago, "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz.  He explains how we as we grew up internalize 4 agreements with the world and how we can reverse the beliefs we grew up with and live love filled lives.  I highly recommend it. It will make you psychologically stronger.  It explains, to me, where alot of the hurt comes from. And steps to take to alleviate it.

Answer 7

Have s*x often

Answer 8

dont give a d**n to any thing

Answer 9

It sounds like you are reacting to other peoples' opinions and actions towards you.  It's easy to feel hurt, sad, and/or lonely if people say the wrong thing, don't call, don't email, etc.  The key to overcoming the hurt is to stop looking to other people to fulfill you.  People will always disappoint, often without even meaning to do so.  Don't take it personally.  Just tell yourself that everyone is fighting his or her own battle, just like you.

To become stronger, tell yourself every day, "Something good is going to happen to me today."  You might not believe it at first, but just say it.  Hope and expect that it will.  Then at the end of the day, find the best thing that happened to you that day.  Even if it's something as small and simple as finding a shiny penny on the street or hearing a joke that made you laugh, focus on that one good thing.  Some days you will have several good things.  Think on those things.  Write them down if you have to.  After awhile the good things add up.  You'll see that things are not so bad, and that your happiness does not depend solely on how others treat you.

Answer 10

Yes, a psychologist can help with this problem of yours.

I deal with this as well.

I am ultra sensitive, extremely alert, and it's hard to focus a lot of the time and ignore people who behave badly.

My mom always tells me to stay fresh and not fight it, because that's weak.

Ignore and you'll see that what comes around goes around.

Just ignore.

Relax.

Don't let others' stress transfer onto you.

You are a very creative, hard working person.

They want to get under your skin.

But you basically own them.

You get what I mean?

You control them not and they don't control you.

Answer 11

Listen in health class, there's mental, physical and social steps to being all around healthy and happy.

Answer 12

Hi Eidrib. First thing you must do is to identify what is causing you to feel this way. Becoming "psychologically stronger" is going to be different for everyone based on what you are facing. If you think the cause may be depression then there are basically (2) types. One is situational depression and is caused by specific life events. For example, your mother dies and you quite naturally feel depressed about her death and this affects all other areas of your life. This type of depression is typically temporary and usually passes on its own after a period of adjustment.

Clinical depression (and the similar bipolar disorder) isn't tied to any specific life event and usually is pervasive throughout ones life unless you get treatment through a combination of drugs and therapy.

You mentioned you feel sad & lonely. Why do you think this is? I noticed on your profile that you are Japanese but live in Indonesia. Did you feel this way prior to moving to Indonesia?

The thing is, that no one really can tell you how to feel "psychologically stronger" without first identifying what it is that is making you feel weak.

Answer 13

to become a psychologically stronger we should play games and go in jimnastic,and do exieces

Answer 14

practice. lots of it.  Go to counseling it helps a lot if you find the right one.  They help normal people too.  

Answer 15

Keep up your physical health, they are related

Stay away from downer people

Try art or writing therapy

Stay clear of people that upset you

Read a lot about your condition (do a web search or go to a library)

Go to new places and see new things

Start a hobby you would like

Try to meet different people, they might be a lot nicer

Answer 16

I think that I would be able to better help you if I knew more about your situation, but I'm going to give it a go on my first attempt to logically decipher what I can. I hope this aids your situation . . .

First of all: psychologically 'stronger'? The fact that you feel the need to become psychologically stronger is a sign that you feel weak.

Perhaps you need to work on your own self image. You requested 'key steps' so here's the first:

- Identification: Who are you and why is it that you feel vulnerable in these situations? Why is it you perceive yourself as vulnerable?

You need to abandon negative feelings about yourself and accept that you like who you are and you are willing to express who you are to other people, I like you and I don't even know you [I'm a writer, I appreciate good character]. Imagine that you don't know yourself, get to know all the good things about yourself.

You say 'I'm easily hurt', in saying things like this, you are telling this not only to me, but to yourself. Now, I don't suggest you lie to yourself, sincerity is very important in accepting who you are, but avoid saying negative things like this, make positive affirmations about the future: 'I will be a stronger person'

You say you become 'sad/lonely'. Sadness and Loneliness are both very closed emotions, very personal and internal, Perhaps you may need to become more open.

- Proactivity: Be active deliberately, seek out things to do actively to express yourself as a person. If you are to accept who you are, then you must also show that you are unafraid to express yourself.

Fear not, unless you are really up to it, proactivity doesn't necessarily mean flamboyant, risky or even exotic activity. It may be as simple as letting people know what you think a little bit more. You are emotional, unless you have a mental disability, then it may just be a part of your personality, if you accept who you are then you may have to accept that your emotional sensitivity is a part of you too.

Be open with your emotions to friends, they will be able to help you through your feelings, especially if you are a girl, guys reject emotions as weakness and consider it a vulnerability, I recommend not seeking a guy's help in these matters . . . even though I am a guy : S

Also, if you don't have friends [unlikely, but possible], then this means that your proactive task is to express yourself and let people you aren't friends with yet know who you are and that you are worth befriending.

- Practicality: Now, this I'll admit is a weird point, but I mention it because it works so well for me and could help you.

Whenever encountering a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable, or even after you are feeling sad and lonely, concentrate hard on the first two steps, then (arguably, most importantly) consider what worrying is doing to the problem.

remember: Worrying doesn't cause problems; worrying IS a problem.

Emotions don't really have a practical application. [This may get a little technical or philosophical here . . .]

Emotions service to stop people doing what they don't like, for fear of it making them sad or angry. With great enough self-determination, you can convince yourself to stop worrying and solve a problem yourself, although there's never any trouble to have some friends to back you up.

If the cause of your troubles is a person, just by not worrying can solve the problem, since one of the reasons people annoy others is because they are thriving attention, even if that attention is attributed to your misery. If the problem is stress for an upcoming event, quit worrying and get to working past it. Or if there is nothing you can do about it, then say that nice and loud and slowly to yourself:

THERE IS NOTHING I CAN DO ABOUT IT

If there's nothing to be done, concern yourself with something you CAN do, or busy yourself with finding a way to DO something about it.

I'm rattling on here, but I leave you with this parting note.

You are a good person, these things are only supplements to your own affirmations, but be careful with the last one . . .

For me, the last one works too well. I am never worried.

NEVER, nothing gets me agitated. Threat of punishment from teachers, upcoming exams, risk of failure, I am unfazed.

I still have my emotions, but there is a risk that I may be bottling up my emotions like anger and fear, and this is where you are better than me. Where as you express your emotions, I do not, and I could be harming myself in the long run and I don't want you to risk something like that.

I'm not worried about it though, but perhaps that is the problem . . .

Answer 17

I think that just being analytical and realistic is the best way, and it sounds like your well on your way

Answer 18

try not to pay attention to other people who make fun of u or something like this.. try not to care for others people opinion which is bad for you... and get over it....

Answer 19

say wat?

answer mine?

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Answer 20

Tips:

Make yourself count 10 blessings in your life when you feel down

Yoga,

Avoid  people who have a negative effect on you

Learn about how to psychically protect yourself and apply it

Make a list of what your wants and needs are and committ to achieving them in a step by step way.

Answer 21

A psychologist would be able to help u with that. just see a psychologist