What are the responsibilities for a maid of honor?

Question

my cousin who is 25 asked me to be her maid of honor. i'm almost 20 years old...i haven't been to a wedding since i was a flower girl when i was 3, so i really don't know what my responsibilities of a maid of honor are! could anyone tell me what my responsibilities would be in the wedding/reception/before the wedding? anything would help. in addition, i'm not extremely close to her, she lost all of her close friends and decided to ask her cousin closest in age to her, which would be me. i want to be a great maid of honor but i don't know exactly how i can do it since i'm not very close to her? help! :)

Answer 1

Hope this helps

Answer 2

I hope you have money because it is expensive. Rather than me write the duties, please go to library or book store and get a etiquette book( preferably a wedding etiquette one)  which will make it very clear. or google but usually the books are better. then after you have read all that you may want to decline due to lack of money but it depends on the extravagance of her wedding. These days people change the rules so much that it is important for you to communicate with her as to what she expects from you and I would do it now so you know. ( she may not even know herself but at least it will get her thinking) good luck  

Answer 3

*Attending all prenuptial parties.

*Help address invitations and announcements.

*Entertain a party for the Bride and Groom, if possible

*Assist bride with going away clothes and luggage.

*Be sure the bridesmaids are kept aware of their fittings,

Appointments, rehearsal obligations and any special duties

*Arrange with a florist for a supply of rose petals for the Flower Girl

*Assure Flower Girl knows her role of scattering flowers

*Arrive at the church or home early enough to help with bride and

Bridesmaids with dressing (at least two hours before arrival time)

*Remind the best man to which ladies will be wearing their flowers

(Mother, Grandmothers, Organist, Soloist, Readers, Hostesses)

*Assist bride with her train before and during the ceremony

*Carry the Grooms Ring

*Hold the brides wedding bouquet for the exchange of the rings and

Hand is back to her just before the recessional.

*Assist the photographer with identification of the bridal party members

And assuring the whole bridal party gets to reception early for photos.

*Witness and sign the marriage certificate after the ceremony.

*Stand in the receiving line. The traditional place to stand is

      At the grooms left side with her bridesmaids to her left.

*Assist bride with her changing into Going Away Clothes

*With the best man, help the couple depart

*See that the brides gown is taken care of according to her wishes.

*Assure Vendors are paid before and Assure clean up is done

*Assure Gifts are packed and taken to Bride and Grooms home.

Answer 4

You should offer to do anything to take some of the stress off her shoulders. I am asking my maid of Honor and my matron of Honor to help make sure decorations are up correctly, make sure everybody has their dresses picked up and fitted, obviously throw the bachlorette party (or talk to the best man and throw a bachelor/bachlorette party) and anything else that she asks your help with. Just remember if she doesn't ask you--you ask her if there is anything that she would like your help with.

Answer 5

Congrats on that honor! Well first you are the one that should be helping with the planning, going to look at the dresses, cake tastings, food tasting, plan the bridal shower, plan the "Last Fling", be in charge of the whole making appointment for hair, and just be there to answer whatever question she may have or to talk to at 2am! big job! but it can be very fun! godspeed

Answer 6

The role really varies depending on the bride. Your cousin may want lots of help in choosing her dress and the bridesmaids dresses and want you to help prepare favours or help with a seating chart and ask your advice on colours, flowers, etc so be prepared to help out as and when she needs it. She may not want you to really do anything besides walk down the aisle and act as a witness.

If you want to be a great MOH just help out when you can. If you can organise a bachlorette party then do so and ask her friends for ideas of things she'd like to do if you are unsure.

Answer 7

Generally you will set up the bachelorette party and the bridal shower. You will help her get dressed for the wedding and will have to fix her train during the wedding. You will also probably hold onto her bouquet during the wedding, maybe the ring too.