What are the rules of your relationship?

Question

How far do you trust your partner? Do you have separate friends? How far is flirting allowed to go with others? Or is it completely off the books and why?

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Answer 1

50/50,trust,honesty and be faithful.married now for 22yrs and yes i have done wrong but then i am not perfect.

Answer 2

A PARTNER YOU'RE JOKING BABE ONLY TRUST MYSELF,  sorry the caps lock was on.

Answer 3

Flirting is cheating. Flirting is used to show somebody that you're interested. The only person you should be interested in is your boyfriend or girlfriend. If you're in a relationship, no flirting should be allowed.

Answer 4

i totally trust her ... yea i have separate friends ... well i donno about the flirting part cuz we dont flirt alot ... i think its fine for big  time flirting ...

Answer 5

Rules are simple,.

She does what she is told and speaks when she is spoken to. Of course she doesn't have male friends or flirt. If she did she would be back at her mother's nursing a sore bottom.

Answer 6

MAKE YOUR OWN RULES.. WHO CARES WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS.. ITS YOUR LIFE

Answer 7

rules..

eat

sleep

s*x

Answer 8

im single............................... i know its hard to believe isnt it?

Answer 9

when we get married that's when martial law comes..haha

kidding! no rules..

if you trust him then that's it..

Answer 10

Love, trust, and s*x.

No children, no lies, and no gold digging.

Answer 11

are u kiddin'? my partner is supposed to be the man i trust the most on earth. i know love blinds us but if you always have relationships with rules, u lose the point of love...

of course we both have separate friends. BUT ONLY FRIENDS.

we never flirt with other men/women..... your boyfriend has to be 2 things: ideal & faithfull. that's why you should know him for a lot of years before u start sth with him. then u'll be able to trust him unconditionally

Answer 12

Love, trust and fidelity.

Not 'rules' but natural outcome of love.

Answer 13

We have some separate friends but always make an effort to introduce our friends to each other so they feel more like joint friends  even if they do get on better with just one of us.  With our jobs we spend 2-3 weeks together and are then apart for 2.

In terms of flirting.  We both think talking to the opposite s*x is fine, even if we don't know them, but touching is a no, no. And definitely nothing that someone else could view as a come on.  If we think someone has been coming onto us we tell each other and if we're apart we talk on the phone every day.

I haven't seen him for 4 weeks and trust him completely but then again if I didn't trust him I wouldn't have said yes when he asked me to marry him.  

Answer 14

This totally depends on the case. You'll get more experiences when you go through a relationship . Because sometimes something is more important to you than other people. So you have to first know your self then move forward with your values. The more you go on, the more you get to know what the limits are.

For instance, I would say I don't like my boyfriend goes to a restaurant with a bunch of our friends when I'm sick and sleeping at home... but this is me, you might not even care about it. Hope that helps:)

Answer 15

I am thirteen years old and my boyfriend is almost sixteen years old. I trust him completely. I know he would never do anything to hurt me. Me and him were friends before we dated so I know what hes like. Flirting on the other hand is allowed but there is no touching what so ever. He dosent have that much girls that are friends anyways and I dont have much guys that are friends.

Answer 16

Love is letting go and making the person be what he/she actually is.

There are no rules in a relationship. We are not going to a school or office to have rules as to what should be done and what should not be done.

The only thing that matters in a relationship is TRUST. Of course we should not trust blindly. But if u trust each other then there is nothing more important and there are no rules.

Answer 17

Well, I do trust my partner, a lot! We do have separate friends, he will go out with his, and i will go out with mine, and sometimes he will come along with me! Flirting can be an issue, people tend to flirt with me a lott, and sometimes i flirt back. With him, i don't really know. I don't really mind as long as it doesn't get out of hand. Seeming my partners gone to Spain for two weeks with his friends, and when he gets back I'm going to bristol with mine, i have some serious trusting to do. I just hope he loves me as much as he says he does.

Answer 18

our relationship is based on total honesty, openess and trust (only exception being irrelevant secrets not relating to our friendship, but entrusted on us by friends who needed a shoulder. Or that may be work related and under clause of confidensiality, again this wont really relate to our relationship, so its irrelevant)

so do i trust him, yes totaly

yes we have both shared and seperate friends

we're both friendly playfull personalities, we dont consider that flirting, we're just relaxed around good friends, its not like we go up to strangers to check them up...more the type of how you can be "childish" for fun among friends who are the same way

there is a saying which go "you aint an adult till you can admit to being childish"...as we all know a good laugh prolongs life...and in fact its normal part of bonding with people close to you...you play with kids, you hug your family etc...but sure i am sure some are so up there they would call that too flirting, we dont...we dont flirt with others...we are friendly and dont need to be serious adult 24/7 365 days a year

i once saw a card who expressed it so well "friends are the family you choose yourself"

However at the end of the day, I dont think everyone have the personality or personal strength or whatever you want to call it to deal with it, you have to be very confident in yourself, in your trust to the other, and in your relationship to live by such rules. And talking to others, or reading Y!A while i see the odd sign of others like that, it is clear that not everyone can manage the cost of doing that, if your are doing those set of rules, sure for the rigth people it can be total security, but they must also be able to stand to cary the cost. And we're all different, not everyone is able to just brush things off, we're all different, and for some its just not healthy to hear it all, its not what makes them happy...its too much...so I wouldnt recomend it to anyone who dont know themself well, and made sure their partner knew themself equaly well. If not then total openess is going to do more damage then it helps, and yeah no not everyone is able to sit by dinner table and be told "oh yeah this client at the office today was trying to ask me out", its the same as not everyone would be able to talk about blood and gut at the dinner table...

I know some who faced with blood pudding and the smell of it would feel sick, i love it. But it just goes to show we're different, and likelyhood is there are other things i couldnt deal with so well, in fact i know there is. So at the end of the day there is no rigth or wrong, or no best way or rescepie to how to do this...just got to go with what is rigth for you.