What are these kinds of abuse called?

Question

the abuse and insult that when some people are insulting you and prejudice you or commenting or making fun of you but pretending to be talking about someone else (not you).

or when you and another friend alone and your friends look through the window at his neighbor and say how bad is his neighboour's ears or something (but he means u)

what kind of abuse is that?! and how one deals with it?

you cant say to him for example that he is talking about you, that will make you admit being insecure about your ears (and thats the point) if you know what i mean..

all those are just examples,, but i face that alot, i mean alot in my life in many situations,

Answer 1

i dont know what kind of abuse that is but if you dont like it and it makes you feel bad, then you just tell him, look, your comments are hurtful so please stop.  if he claims innocence, like "i was talking about the guy across the street!" or whatever, you just tell him again, your comments are hurtful and if it doesnt stop, then you are given no choice but to stop hanging out with him.

if he calls you a wuss or whatever, it doesnt matter.  all that matters is you tell him how it affects you and if he doesnt stop, then you are no longer friends.  you at this point are giving him a choice, and if he chooses not to stop, then he does not think of you worth enough to stop over his own insecurities (which are driving him to make negative comments).  

good luck.  i know its not easy talking to a friend about this.  i've had friends brush it off, and i have had to end the friendship due to their inability to put aside their pride for our friendship.  but it turned out great because that opened up room in my life for more than one really great friends to enter, ones which i am still friends with to this day!

so go create your boundary.  its a lesson you will need to learn and apply in your life, for the rest of your life.  abusive friends dont just end when you gradute from school.

Answer 2

I don't think there is a type of abuse for this one, except that it is racist.

Answer 3

you need to be more clear

Answer 4

abuse is abuse... it does not have any other name BUT abuse.