What are ways some people cope with a deployment?

Question

Well technically it's an underway. This is my first time with anything like this. I'm a newlywed trying to set up our house to keep my mind off everything but I'm having a really hard time coping with this. Any advice?

Answer 1

Don't worry about it. At first you're going to be so busy that you don't have time to stress. You'll be used to it within a week and after you get comfortable the hard part will set in....Boredom...highlighted by brief period of stark terror. (just kidding about the last, that is for line dogs)

Answer 2

Don't be worried, he will come back home. Just try to focus on fixing the house. My fiance is in the Navy and when he leaves, i get very bored! So i focus on something like else like learning a new hobby or have get-together with friends and family.There is also support groups for military wives and fiances. So join them because they are very helpful!!!

Answer 3

you have to keep busy I started online college and I work a part time job I do arts and crafts around my home and spruce up the place  I like to cook   i like to search for simple recipes and make a recipe book.  I am not a fan of the whole FRG group thing but  I go once in awhile it is good just as long as you are mature and dont get caught in the he said she said bull that goes on in them and dont say too much about your personal life at thoes things  it is best to stay as constructive as possible dont make your self so busy that you cant keep up but enough to keep your mind off of things  I did it all including building modle cars which i actualy enjoy if you are stationed in a new environment travel you can look into your ACS to see what you can do I even did a lil volunteer work on post and helped the comunity out

be safe and pray for him every day

Answer 4

You should try to connect with other military wives. There should be a support group in your area, see if you can find them and get in contact soon. Other things you can do is get a hobby, do volunteer work, just keep busy, your hubby will be back soon.  

Answer 5

Get a routine, it makes things go faster....and a JOB.

Also, don't worry about things that haven't happened yet. I had a calendar and scratched off the days...but that was a bad idea for a 15 month deployment

Answer 6

my wife tried to stay busy with little hobbies or going out with family and friends. she was also very busy with work and trying to find a new place to live since i just got stationed. also there are many support groups out there to help each other. i know in the coast guard we have these people called obudsmen(spelling?) and they are there to help spouses with anything they need.  

Answer 7

get involved with other wifes that are stationed there.It's nice to be friends with other military wives because they know what you are going through and they can give you advice about it.They should have a Military Wife club for your command so if he leaves its not just going to be him, its going to be him and his company, and there will be other wifes and families without thier loved ones, When my husband and I where away from each other.I hung out with military wives and worked so I kept myself busy with that.

Answer 8

Try to stay busy with setting up your house, and once you get done with that, try picking up a new hobby, or a job. You could get in touch with the FRG of the base you're stationed at. If you're not near a military installation, you could try to find an online group for military wives. I'm part of one of these, and it's really helped me deal with the army life a lot. If you want to hear about the group, or just talk, feel free to contact me.