What are you trying to start this morning???

Question

That is the question my husband ask me, before he left for work. See, I was away for the weekend. I come home to a filthy house, both sinks, and countertops full of dirty dishes. The living room full of dirty dishes, they did nothing !!! Anyone else out there getting tired of being a maid to their family. How can this question NOT put a person on the defensive. I need to leave this jerk. All he did was get drunk.... I just know it.

Answer 1

Obviously it was a boys weekend and they got extremely lazy.

You dont need to leave him just express how upset you are about it, the fact that you came back and the house was a mess.

Communication is the key. If he doesnt listen then tell him you want a break for a month or so, let him live in his own filth, i reakon he will get sick of it after 4 days lol

Answer 2

I HATE that question! HE does nothing and you're not suppose to have an opinion about it? What an as*hole! My husband says the same thing occasionally. My favorite is when I say something when I'm on my period. He thinks it's only hormones and that my opinion is invalid. ARG!  

Answer 3

If you have had the same talk with him before and it didn't work, try something different.  My friends Mom, told her husband and older kids that she could see that they liked their mess and were welcome to it.  And since they didn't like helping her, she would respect that and not help them.  She cooked for herself and the little one, brought home food for the two of them, washed their dished, put them in a tupperwarde and hid it, washed their clothes, packed their lunches and left the others to wallow in their filth.

It didn't take them long to realize just how much she did for them and how little they did.  They asked her to include them again, and they started pitching in.

Answer 4

If this is a one off do you not think that you are over reacting ?

Answer 5

stop doing it all.  if you need help, have asked for it, and don't get it..............stop being the maid.  cook for yourself, do your own laundry, etc.  they'll get the hint.

Answer 6

Leave him. He's useless if he can't keep the slop to a minimum!!!

Answer 7

Calm down and TALK to him. Getting mad a defensive never solved anything. Just tell him why you are upset and work together to fix the problem.  

Answer 8

Sounds to me like he is lazy and really taking advantage of you. I'm a man and i always have everything in order in the house. Laundry is done, dishes are all clean and the sweeper is run. Guess that i am just a neat person. I do things like that so my wife will at least have some time for me and not too tired.

Answer 9

Yikes.... sorry you came home to such a mess.  I don't know if you should leave him just for that... unless this is a continually on going thing with him.  Have you tried talking to him about this?  If so, and he still won't change, then I guess it's up to you to decide if you want this for the rest of your life.........