What are your detailed views on g*y couples adopting?

Question

What are your detailed views on g*y couples adopting?

Answer 1

It's a great way in for g*y Paedophiles, to get their filthy mitts on kids.

Answer 2

I can't make up my mind

There are many pros and cons

Answer 3

g*y couples should have the same rights as the rest of us.  If a g*y couple wants to adopt they should be able to.  Being heterosexual is not what makes someone a good parent.  What makes a good parent is someone who loves his/her children and wants and does what is best for them. A person can be a good parent regardless of sexual orientation.

In other words it shouldn't matter whether the couple is g*y or not.

Answer 4

I think it is ok.... as long as the child is in a loving environment... as for bullying... it happens anyway. Kids get bullied for being fat, thin, black, brown , tall, short,it's how you deal with it that matters.. so I think g*y couples should be able adopt.

Answer 5

as a foster carer, i think that the sexual preferences of the adopters is not relevant. its what they can offer to the child thats important.

Answer 6

I personally think it doesnt matter if your g*y, straight, fat, thin, millionaire etc as long as you can offer a safe loving home to a child you should be able to apply to adopt, and as long as adoption authorities are up to date and closely monitoring prospective parents and children closely (g*y or not) there should never be a problem xx

Answer 7

Personally for me, if a g*y couple can offer a stable and loving home then I dont see a problem, no-one can argue that a child is better off in care or abusive home than with a family that loves him/her whether they are straight or g*y

Answer 8

Well I am really undecided on this.  I feel that irrespective of your sexual orientation you can be a good parent.  After all s*x is s*x and is not a parenting skill.  However, no matter how good you are as a parent, if you are lesbians you cannot possibly provide what a father could provide and vice versa for men.  They wouldnt bbe able to provide what a mother could provide.  Also, depsite society having more open minds nowadays, it would still be hard for the child of a same s*x couple no matter how loved and protectedthey were.  Life is cruel and there are still plenty of people who are bigotted and bullies and at the end of the day it is always the child that pays the price.  

Of course, homosexuals should have the same rights as a heterosexuals, but in the end its the child being adopted that has to be considered.  I agree with one of the other answers, I would also like to hear from those who have been adopted by a same s*x couple and hear their point of view.  I am still so undecided because I dont object at all to g**s adopting I just wonder what the effects for the child would be having to put up with societies ignorance.

Thanks for making me think hard about this by the way.

Answer 9

I am torn. I have a few g*y friends that I feel would make great loving parents, but somehow it seems that a child should have a mother and a father. I like the balance that each s*x brings. Then again, having two fathers has to be better than having no one. As you can see, I am straddling the fence.

Answer 10

go for it

what is stopping you

i know a L*****n couple that have a child which they adopted.

they are all so happy

if you can offer a loving and suitable home for a child to grow up in then do it as long as you both agree on what you are doing.

dont think about what others think its you who will have that responsibility not them

we now live in the 21 st centry

good luck

all the best

and most of all be happy

:D

Answer 11

Anyone who takes a position against it is labeled a "monster," gets negative publicity, and jeopardizes their employment.

So, I usually leave well-enough alone as far as the issues go.

Answer 12

I'm sure it's okay as long as they don't use it as an opportunity to indoctrinate that there's only one way in life.

Can a same s*x couple adopt if they're not g*y?

Answer 13

if a couple can offer a stable loving home for a child, even if its a g*y couple then surely that would be better than growing up in care ??

Answer 14

I'm g*y and me and my partner are adopting a 2y/o and a 13y/o next month. We can provide a stable and loving home for them (the oldest comes from an abusive home).

Answer 15

Thats a difficult question for me, as I'm not pro-g*y anything.  Its hard for me to say it could be exceptable, due to my position on same s*x marrige.  I would be afraid to condone it for not understanding what negitives could come from it.  How could I condone it, if I'm against g*y everything.  On the other hand there are children whom will never become adopted and will live with out even one parent until they can take care of them selves, I'm perplexed!

Answer 16

The same as my views about anyone adopting. Love and security are what matters. Anyone who can provide that should adopt.

There are so many children who would benefit from living in a home of their own with loving parents.

Answer 17

I am not in favour of it. A child needs both role models, a father and a mother figure in their family. Yes a single parent can't provide this, however I think most people would agree that a single parent situation is not the ideal for bringing up children.

I'm not suggesting that g*y people couldn't love a child, however this should not give them the right to a child. The child's requirements should come first, and as I said above I think that a child should ideally have a loving father AND mother to look up to and learn both male and female sets of values and styles of behaviour.

We have 2 sons and a daughter and my wife and I relate to each of our children differently, and similarly they will get a different approach to situations from her and me. If you have, in effect, 2 fathers or 2 mothers , then the child does not get the opposite s*x's approach as they grow up.

Answer 18

I think if they can give a good , caring , loving home then yes i think they should adopt , I was adopted as a young child i ended up in a children's home , i cant remember anything thank god but apparently i had a very bad time , they are alot of children out there looking and waiting for a good home someone to love them and the more that want to adopt the better whether they are g*y or straight , give a child a loving home they so desperately need

Answer 19

My detailed views are that it's fine.

Period.

End of sentence.

I should say that I know a LOT of g*y and L*****n adoptive parents.

My older daughter's closest friend has two moms. Her family is as ordinary as any other, except there are two moms. They are kind of an Ozzie and Harriet family actually. I don't know what some people think goes on in g*y and L*****n households? There is nothing risque about this family! They are parents raising children! They do all the things that parents do to raise their kids. (I actually think one of the moms is a MUCH stricter mom than I am.)

Answer 20

Who cares what their sexual preference is? If you only placed children with perfect families? Then we would have to all prove that we don’t cheat on our partners, scream at traffic, drink too much sometimes, and that every moment we breath is filled with love. No one would have kids, the joy of being a family is loving inspite of. Dealing and living with each others’ imperfections.

Answer 21

this question always concerns me, because i think the interpretation is that the parents' sexuality is in someway on display for the child.   same-s*x couples confine their intimacies to the bed-room, just like heterosexual couples do.

i think it's paranoia.  

also, i think the "kids need the same s*x-parent to relate to" argument is flawed.  how many parents are neglectful to their kids?  how many moms are too busy consumed with their own agenda and shuffling the kids to soccer and band-camp to even bond with them? how many fathers are deployed, work long hours, or sequester themselves in the study?  i believe that if a child grows up in a loving home with nurturing adults,(or adult) that's the best bet.  gender and sexual orientation, inclusive.

i know from experience two same-s*x couples who are raising amazing children.  one couple is raising children conceived through IVF (a friend's sperm) and the other is raising a biological child from a previous relationship.

my opinion of adoption (sexual orientation inclusive) is that the focus needs to be on the kids, and not on fulfilling some intrinsic void within the adults.

ETA: someone asked that if homosexuality is so normal why do people go around talking about it, and heterosexuals don't.

my answer: same-s*x couples talk about it because they are DISCRIMINATED AGAINST!  for one who has never experienced social discrimination, it might be an unfamiliar concept.  also, i must disagree that heterosexuality is not overly discussed.  h**l, i can't watch a commercial about a  freaking cheeseburger without some sleezy double-entendre being made regarding a woman needed "more beef!"

Answer 22

Unlike another poster here, I do not think homosexuality is learned, I believe it's genetic, and normal.

That said, adoption is about the children, not the parents.  And like a good marriage, it should be about more than 'love'.

I personally believe adopted kids should get what they lost: a mother and a father.  This is NOT about equal rights for g**s--it's about creating the best childhood for an adopted child.  That childhood should be as close to the 'ideal' as possible.

Children lose a great deal before they join their adoptive families--their parents, extended families, and their histories.

To me, adoption should be like a hefty insurance policy that 'cushions the blow' of all the losses, and creates the best base possible for an emotionally healthy life.

Answer 23

Yes, children need both sexes for role models, and for their different strengths of parenting.

But I don't understand how anyone can say that a child is better off in foster care then in a home with two persons who want that child forever.

Anyone who does say that is more consumed with negative g*y feelings then they are thinking about what is good for a child needing a home.

Answer 24

I know g*y couples who are excellent parents but I couldn't care less whether they are or aren't able to adopt.

Nobody is entitled to someone elses child or have a 'right' to a child, whoever or whatever orientation they are.

Answer 25

I believe that some issues should not be up for debate! Just because a person is g*y, straight, married, single, catholic, christian, buddist, Hindu etc etc etc; does not have any bearing weather a person/couple can lead a moral respective life and provide a loving positive home for a

child(ren). The most ready arguments against g*y adoption are "the child won't understand..He/she will be bullied.. It's not a moral lifestyle choice" to those arguments I say what child understands their parents anyway? Children are bullied all the time...I was called "swirly Worley" because of my last name does that mean that my parents should not have had me because my dad had a silly name? Or they should not have had my brother because he ended up being heavy in elementary school? And nothing is more a moral life style choice than being in a healthy magonamous relationship and bringing a child into a loving committed family. If you start judging weather or not g*y couples have the right to adopt don't you need to start judging every couple? When did being g*y = being incapable of love and morality?

No one would even question what are your detailed views of christian couples adopting?!

Answer 26

as long as they can offer the best of care im all for it!

Answer 27

Anyone who can provide a stable, loving, safe environment should be allowed to adopt.

Answer 28

Although I think it's best that a child be raised with both a male and a female role model, stats are showing that children raised by g*y couples are not less adjusted than any other child.  I realize there are so many factors to consider when discussing the level of adjustment for a child, which is why I'm not sure that the research has been thorough enough yet.  

So, I'm not entirely sure how I feel about how a child being by two people of the same s*x is affected in any different way that one raised in a heterosexual home.  I do lean, however, to believing that being raised by a g*y couple is probably not problematic.  But, I do know that denying g*y couples adoption rights is discriminatory.

I do have ask the posters who state that because a g*y couple cannot make a child naturally then they aren't meant to have children.  The majority of straight couples who adopt do so because one or both are infertile.  Do you think that infertile people, because they can't have a child naturally, are meant to be childless, and therefore shouldn't be able to adopt?

Answer 29

I disagree with g*y people adopting, because I think it is preferable to have a man/woman parent situation. I think it is important that a child can identify with a parent of its own s*x, say a boy needs a father figure or a girl a mother figure and then they need both, something a g*y relationship cannot provide. (and I dont mean friends or other relatives as a means of providing this). I dont think its enough either to say if g*y people dont adopt then these children would still be stuck in care. We must still strive to give them the best care with a good mother/father relationship.

P.S. Single parents can be good parents of course, but IMO I think it is important to have two people man/woman raising the young. Even single parents, or more their children, that I know wish that they had the other partner but because of divorces or separation it was not possible. What I would like to see are views from people who are adopted by g*y people and what they think of the situation and how has it been, that would be a more important view.

Answer 30

What is wrong with the world want it years ago where blacks had to sit at the back of the bus and where no black child should be raised in a white home. Look I'm not g*y but I will tell you that what i have saw by some g*y Friends. They are doctors and lawyers, actress etc. There houses are extremely neat and well maintain. I don't think a child will be hurt just loved. Most child perverts are married with children of their own.

Answer 31

Live and let live!

Edit - to the poster above, what about single parent families????????