What are your opinions on teen pregnancgy?

Question

Okay, i'm asking this because i'm 17, and i'm 21 weeks pregnant with twin girls. Now, for some reason, just because i'm black(i'm half black and half white), and i'm really young, they dont think I should be having a baby, let alone two, and they're quick to judge me. They also think i was irresponsible, and had unprotected s*x. Well, i'm gonna say this. All teenage girls that get pregnant arent whores(i've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, hes the only guy i've ever been with). And, i was on birth control AND we always used condoms. Every single time. I didnt get pregnant to trap my boyfriend. We were perfectly happy, and were happier now. Just because i'm black, it doesnt mean i'm poor, and uneducated, and that i'm gonna struggle with my babies. I'm not, at all. I dont think age can determine weather you'll be a good mommy or not. Only you can. This is one of the happiest times in my life, and i'm really really really excited. I'm not worried or scared, at all. I'm just really looking foward to meeting my daughters.

So what are your opinions on teen pregnancy? And please, dont be rude. You really dont know me, so dont judge. Its just a question, and i'm just wondering what everyone thinks.

Answer 1

well acording to the dr.s where i live your at the perfect age! LOL

Answer 2

it's their life and choice

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Answer 3

Being a teen mother is hard.  I know from experience.  I got pregnant at 18.  To be a good parent, you have to be completely unselfish.  You are no longer your first priority, your child is.  You won't get to do majority of the things you want to, and you may resent it.  But you have to put yourself aside.  People will always judge you, it's part of life, whether you are a teen mother or not.  In my opinion, the only one I need to worry about judging me is God.

My daughter is my life, and I'm sure your daughters will be your life too.  Good luck with everything!

Answer 4

i think it's a hard thing to go through and i respect everyone who has to go through it. i really hope it never happens to me though. congrats and good luck

Answer 5

I had s*x with a condom and had missed my period for one month. I asked about what other than the s*x could be causing it. I was called a "immature little girl, a kid, idiot, w***e, and a child" Even though I said I had s*x protected people ignored that and said my boyfriend was raping a child and having unprotected s*x with me.

Yet a woman of 25 who asked the same question got love and support from every answer.

I was not pregnant, but I do not have any less respect for teen mothers. A mother is a mother end of story.

Answer 6

Well, personally, I think that all people whon get pregnant under the age of 16 are complete and utter s***s. Anybody over 16, you in that case, is ok. You have left High School and it's your choice what you do with your life but seriously

you have ORD (Obsessive Racism Dissorder). You're just blaming the fact that you think people think of you as a w***e on racism now - taking advantage of your race.

Honestly, don't blame it on racism cos that's not the answers.

Hope this helps :D

Answer 7

i don't think teen girls that get pregnant are s***s (not all of them some are exception)

my honest opinion is this i don't think teens are ready. i was 22 when i had my son and i wasn't ready mentally and financially. it was nothing nothing nothing like i thought it would be. you know you see kids and they are all smiles and smell good and when they cry its cute. its cute because you see it for a little bit not hours and hours sometimes.

i love my son and i know you are going to love your twins i just think that if teens would finish high school and maybe even college and get a good job and nice house they will be a little more financially secure it would be alot easier.

i was very lucky that i didn't have to work the first two years of his life.

my boyfriend (no we are not married but have been together for about 7 years) has a great job and we bought our house right before the baby.

i hope i answered your question and if you ever need to chat about anything email me at [e-mail]

good luck with the twins they are going to be a handful lol

Answer 8

I think that teenage pregnancy should never be planned. I don't think it's fair to judge somebody when you know nothing about them. You were careful which is good, and now you're taking responsibility for your actions which is good, too. A lot of pregnant teens are irresponsible which causes people to assume that if a young girl is pregnant she was irresponsible. Having s*x at a young age isn't great. I think that girls younger than 15 who are pregnant are irresponsible because they shouldn't have been having s*x! Even at 15. I think 18 or older is when it's OK. As long as you're with somebody you love. It's better to have a baby when you're an adult, financially stable, and in a good relationship- or no relationship, as long as you have money, time, and will take care of a new life. Babies are precious things that can't be handed to just anyone. A teenager isn't the best mother for a child to grow up with because they might have a 20 year old mom when everyone else has a 35 year old mom. That is not good.  

Answer 9

I support teen pregnancy 98%. (The other two percent is for the possibility that the mother is a crack w***e :) ) Although I myself am not planning on having s*x anytime soon (I'm 16) I honestly would love to be pregnant, even now. I agree that age doesn't determine whether or not someone will be a good mother. Obviously, a lot of the time teen mothers cannot properly take care of their children, but if they can, they more power to you. I have wanted to be a mother since I could talk and if it so happened that I got pregnant my first time having s*x on accident, I wouldn't mind. I would be happy. That doesn't mean that I'm going to go get pregnant, but I'm sure God, or whatever you beleve in, would never give you something you couldn't handle.

I support YOU 100% because you say you can handle it. Congratulations! What are you planning on naming your twins? By the way, my DREAM is to have twin girls, or twins boy and a girl. If you can, email me your names...I'm excited for you!

Answer 10

My opinion is I think girls who get pregnant as a teen throw away their life. Most girls don't end finshing high school let alone college. So you look as a career as a cahier as something and can't go back until the child grows up. They are way expensive so trying to earn that kind of money and take care of kids are diffcult. Also while your friends are out partying your stuck watching a baby. I really wish teens would go out and buy a box of condoms sexually active or not so there will never be an excuse for unprotected s*x. I wish teens would just protect themsleves...

Answer 11

Well I had my baby at 17, in the 11th grade and it was also unplanned, I stayed in school pregnant and after i had my baby, i had no financial support from my parents or the government,

Though i am white, i still get the stares and I've come to except it, people view young mothers as trash and government suckers, which is clearly not the case, I wish people would be more excepting of it and not stereotype teen mothers but base them on what they accomplished and how good of a mother they are,

I am 18 now and in college, I pay for everything, I have a job and a car, I take wonderful care of my daughter,

Answer 12

well I was 16 when I had my first baby girl.We were had protection but the condom broke without us realizing it.Well...when I was 21 I was engaged to my boyfriend(the guy who I had my baby girl with)and I soon found out I was pregnant again with another baby girl.But about 3 weeks before my wedding and 6 weeks b4 my due date my boyfriend died in a car crash...some stupid drunk ran a red light and my boyfriend died...it was terrible and I couldn't stand it...I was alone and helpless.But then I met another guy...I have a set of 5 year old boy twins my 2 baby girls who are now ages 13 and 8...and i am married.I couldn't be happier.I am actually pregnant again...i'm happy with my life.ppl are just ignorant...never listen 2 them...k?u'll be happy in life...trust me...i am.

Answer 13

I just turned 17 when my son was born. I'm now almost 18. Even when I went to doctors appointments, some nurses acted like they were too good to be treating a teenager. I don't think it makes a difference what race you are (i'm white), everybody is stereotypical of any teenager that is pregnant.

Personally, even before I got pregnant, I didn't see anything wrong with teen pregnancy. If you are ready to care and support your child and make a lifelong commitment, there is nothing wrong with that. Just because we are teenagers doesn't mean we love our child any less.



I'm still with my baby's father and our son is the best thing that has ever happened to us. We are both finishing school. I'll be graduating in January instead of June and will then be going to University/College (i'm unsure yet lol). I still live at home but only because my Dad asked me to stay home until I got out of school. If we wanted to move out together, we could.  For anyone who feels to comment on this, no I don't recieve any financial support from my father. Me and my boyfriend are able to support our son by ourselves.

Good luck with your twin daughters! You will love every minute of being a Mommy. You'll do great! Keep your head up and ignore everyone else. By doing that, you're already better than them.

Answer 14

age doesnt define how good of a mother you are as long as you dont act your age =] im 17 and im on my 2nd child im married to there dad and wer both happier then we have ever been so just ignore it all because trust me youl always get judged people still look at me wen they know im not 18 with a 1 1/2 yr old and being 8 months pregnant so yeah i just dont let it get to me anymore.

Answer 15

I can't speak from personal experience, I have a 10 month old little girl and I'm 28. But my mom became pregnant when she was 14! And she is a wonderful mom. I do think that it's pretty scary for having kids so young but I think it's scary no matter what age you are. Let me first tell you, that just by what you wrote and how you wrote your thoughts and feelings on it you sound very intelligent. People will look down on you I'm sure. The stereotypes are always there unfortunatly but you just prove them wrong. What matters is how you feel and that you believ in yourself and know that they are all wrong. I know plenty of mother's who are married and in their 30s or 40s and they were horrible parents. Some even lost their kids because they were so bad. So age doesn't matter it's how you handle it. Congrats. And always believe in yourself. Because you will hear lots of negative things but none of it matters. I bet you are going to be great.

Answer 16

While I don't think it's a good idea to get pregnant that young, I also don't think people have the right to judge teens who are pregnant. It's nobody's business but the girl, her boyfriend, and their families. Like you said not all pregnant teens are s***s, s***s are girls who sleep with more than one guy, not girls who sleep with one, use protection, and get pregnant anyway. Plus there's parents of all ages who treat their kids bad, those are the kinds of parents who should be judged.

Edit(I deleted my second paragraph):Sorry third answerer, I read your first paragraph wrong. But still people shouldn't judge.

Answer 17

Who cares if your half black half white. i think people who judge people by races is so not right. I also think its not the fact that your black with a baby you'll get bad stares and glares because people may think you're poor or uneducated, but also as a white girl we get called trailer trash, white trash, s***s everything mean possible. It is sad that now a days when girls are 16 17 and getting pregnant we get called whores..even if we do everything to prevent it! YOU WILL BE A GREAT MOM. Don't let other women and other teenages get to you. Just know in your head that your daughters will love you and will be so happy you're their mother!!

Answer 18

i'm 15. i wanna have a baby. give me one of your babies.

Answer 19

I think you are very young and twins are going to be hard work

I dont think just coz you are young you slept arounf or was silly

these things happen

I had my first child at 19 and that was very young but she is now 16 and although it was really hard at times I wouldnt change a thing

she is a beautiful girl and I love her dearly

you seem to have thought this through and if your excitted thats great

you will lose a lot of your freedom and you will no longer be your first proity any more

dont be afraid to ask for help and except any that is offered

I wish you all the best and hope that you your partner and your two daughter are happy

all that being said my opinion on teen pregnancy

well I hope it does not happen to my daughter but if it does I will support her and if your happy about it dont worry what anyone else says to you

good luck  

Answer 20

Well, I think that people are just afraid that you are going to grow up too fast. At 17, you should be enjoying high school and going to the prom. Also, you havent graduated, or gone to college, so it might prevent you from getting the best job possible to support your children. That said, I think it's wonderful that you are making the best of the situation, and you will likely be a great mom. Oh, and dont play the race card. That's lame. Get over it already. It wouldnt matter if you were green. People look at you like that because you are young.

Answer 21

im 14 and pregnant

dont let anyone put u down,once u see ur babies on ur first ultrasound then u will fall in love and not give a stuff about anything they say :)

xoxo