What are your thoughts on adopting...?

Question

I'm a single woman. I have a college education. I'm a good Christian (go to church on Sunday and live it every other day of the week). Stable job I'm an RN I work three days a week. Sadly the right man has not come along so I've not gotten married. I would like to have a family of my own; and I want to make a difference in a child's life.

What do you think of single women adopting children where they would be the main parent?

I have brothers and my father who would be great father figures, but I'm not sure this is whats best for a child. Please share your thoughts.

Answer 1

I think it's just fine provided that you adopt a daughter.  I am not in any way dissing any of the single moms out there with sons, but it is much harder on boys to be raised without a father than a daughter who has male figures in her life. This is very generalized.

Answer 2

Adoption is a wonderful thing to do. You are providing for a child in a way that they may not otherwise been able to be provided for.

And as far as being single...one of my favorite proverbs is...

It takes a village to raise a child

So the love of the family should do just fine.

Answer 3

please check out foster care to adopt.

Answer 4

I am all for single woman adopting children.  THe children need a loving home and they really don't care if you are married or not.  There are plenty of great single moms out there.  It is great that you already know you will have good male figures for their life but you know there are children that have no male figures in their life and still turn out just fine so don't worry about that.  If you want to adopt and make some familyless child happy with a loving home and a great mom then go for it, don't let your maritial status stop you.  A family is what you make it.  If you adopt a child then you and that child will be your new family and together you will do just fine.  Goodluck and I hope you adopt soon :-)

Answer 5

My personal feeling is that a child of either s*x does best with both a mother and father who have a stable marriage. While your Dad and brothers could make great role models, they wouldn't be the baby's father - and that's what the child needs.

Since you're a Christian as I am, I'll recommend prayer. Ask God to point you in the direction of His will for your life, and try your best to let go if you feel God is leading you in a different direction than you've planned for your life. Trust me, His ways are always best!!

Answer 6

Single mothers can be great adoptive parents, especially if you have healthy adult male role models for a child.  

I advise you to research all of the adoption avenues (foster, domestic and international) and determine what is best for your family and situation.

Good luck!

Answer 7

I think there are so many kids out there who's situation is so much worse than just having a mother that your loving care would be a wonderful thing.

You have a big heart to consider giving a child a home.

Answer 8

i think its a great idea. you show love just from your question as your prepared to bring up a child that isn't yours on your own. there are so many families out there who have a mother and a father but its not always a good thing if they are constantly arguing and things. as long as there's love in your heart to bring up a child that's all that matters

Answer 9

I agree with all the posts but mostly with anastasia. You could make a big difference in the life of a foster care child. They need homes, period. Male roll models are important but kids find roll models. I have a husband and my boys still have sought out other male roll models through school. They have teachers and coaches that they really enjoy. It's very doable. Good Luck

Answer 10

I am a single mom with three daughters adopted from China.  Your description of yourself sounds very much like me (except I have a different career).   My children are happy, healthy, and well-adjusted.  Having a husband might have made things easier for me, but not necessarily for them.  If you want to be a parent, go for it!

Answer 11

I feel that every child should be able to have at least one parent, and be able to have that stability of having a loving parent and a place to call home.  There are a lot of kids(not adopted) today who are being raised by single parents. I think if you feel you can afford a child defiantly look into adopting maybe if you are able you might even be able to adopt a small sibling group (2 or 3). As you said you have male relatives/friends who can give the child(ren) a father figure to the kids.