What are your thoughts on this? Any advice?

Question

This guy broke up with me by just disappearing.. never told me he was breaking up with me, just stopped calling, etc. I was the last to know I was dumped.

Now I cant stop checking my phone to see if hes called and when I hide my phone from myself I end up asking anyone I'm with if I can borrow their phone to check my e-mail (to see if hes e-mailed me)

Im aware my behaviour is not normal.. ive never acted this way before.. im scaring myself... Any advice? how can i stop this? Ever been through this as well?

Answer 1

Honestly, hes scared to death or hes playing a game to see ho much you care, all unconciously i suppose. You are both rather needy, and you are obviously afraid as well. The assumption seems to be "What am i without him"? with some anxiety attached. Have you felt this way before? like in early childhood. Could be a good opportunity to deal with it, and it probobly wont come up again if you do deal with it. if not it will occur over and over. So bottom line im not a psych. dont take my word for it. friends could help cope depending on how honest with them you are.

Answer 2

The fact that he did that to you means that he is a coward. It is normal to act the way you are, you were in love with him and suddenly he just was gone. You haven't had time for it to sink in that you can't love him anymore, and also you want to know what he was thinking when he just left you. Keep strong but move on. I know it's going to be tough but remember that if he does want to get back together with you he will only break your heart again.

Answer 3

You need some friends to hang out with, to help you move on.... if he wanted to talk to you, he would almost break his neck to do so...he is not worth you acting like this, he cant be if he has moved on.

Answer 4

Have you ruled out other possibilities like maybe he's in the hospital or in jail?  Contact him one more time, tell him that you are concerned about him and ask him if he's ok.  If he does not reply, then move on with your life.

I had something similar happen to me many years ago.  I was developing a close friendship with a lady when all of a sudden she started avoiding me.  When I next encountered her in person, I was polite and just asked her if there was anything that I had done to hurt her. All she would say is that there was nothing to worry about. Since she did not seem angry, I figured that it was not my fault and that she just had a change of heart and could not tell me that.  So we went our separate ways.

Good luck.