What can't I stop missing him? ?

Question

I know that when people break up the normal part of that is missing that person no matter how bad they hurt you. I just feel real weak right now like I still want him in my life even though he tried to cheat on me. Not sure what to do I know the normal thing is to keep busy talk to friends but I'm doing that and nothing is helping. Even went shopping yesterday and all I could think about is how we used to shop together. The whole break up came as a surprise sat morning he is making me breakfast in bed then sat night he is trying to meet up with a girl from the internet. I feel really betrayed and not sure what to do. Any advice on this?

Answer 1

You are not alone. I broke up with my bf 2 wks ago. Im still staring at my phone hoping he'll text or call. If I hear one more person say time heals all wounds I will kick them! The whole process sucks!

All you can do if focus on yourself. I hope you have a wonderful group of friends around you who you can let your hair down with. Enjoy being single because you will not stay this way for long!

Answer 2

Well, look like you know the answer but don't want to acknowledge it. There is only one way to move on, which you stated.. get busy, involve yourself with friends, do activities etc..

One suggestion, dont try to forget him. Just keep it as a part of your life and call that past. You had a good time, remeber that, snile about it but that is past and you got to think about today.  

Answer 3

Why cant i stop missing my girl, she is all i can think about and i feel like c**p even though we split up at the moment.

i think the best thing to do in your own time is just let your tears flow till you feel better.

Answer 4

I was so afraid of feeling what yr feeling that I would not let a guy I fancied touch me.  Because I would hurt myself if it went wrong again.

I think it's best to just date & not get too serious if you can

But as for finding some1 better - so many people told me that would happen & I am still single

Answer 5

my ex cheated on me, finished with me (got her to ring me after they had s*x and tell me to **** off), went out with her for a month, still told me he loved me - made me cry everyday, stopped me from going to my college placement (said he'd stop speaking to me if i went as he thought i was going to some lads), told me to die, told me he wants to kill me, abused me, chased me, got all his friends to abuse me, stopped me speaking to all my friends and family (said they were out to ruin us as they told me he was no good for me) - and after all that, i still miss him and i still love him and i still wish me and him worked out - he hates me, still speaks to me but only to upset me as he knows what gets to me but cos i love him, i keep going back and still try to keep hold of our friendship - i've cut his name into my wrist months ago and i cut myself over the pain he put me through emotionally! yet i'd still happily get back with him - it's just the way life is, you find that one person and you try your hardest to never lose them, whether they're good enough for you or not.

there is not much you can do if you're already trying to keep yourself occupied. when i was 13, i self harmed, i had a counselor and she told me to write my feelings down instead of taking the pain out on myself and it helped a lot and since i was 13, i've wrote everything down and now i'm nearly 18 - i had an ex kill himself when i was 15 and still think about him everyday as i was in a two year relationship with him.

things will get easier, you'll find someone else and someone who will not even think about another girl cos they love you and you're all that matters to them but until then, just go out, have a good time and wait for that right one to come to you :) but no matter what, keep smiling.

Answer 6

Sorry about how you feel....love is irational and dosnt always make sense it will hurt for awile but tell yourself its better if ur with sombody who will treat u with respect and NOT try cheating on you,u deserve better,until u get over him keep busy and spend time with those most important to u like family and freinds I don't know if ur religious but maybe prayer can help,convice urself u don't need a jerk like him keep ur mind busy with work or whatever have fun move on live your life...I hope you feel better hope I helped

Answer 7

I know it hurts now, but you do not need this kind of c**p. It will get easier.

You might miss him for awhile, but then you will meet someone who treats you as you deserve and then you will look back on this and thank your lucky stars that you were free. If you continue on, you might miss out on the greatest guy of your life.

I know, because I almost did the same thing.