What can I do, my mum has no sympathy

Question

My mum gets me really mad

Her periods aren't bad but mine give me terrible terrible pains and I regularly have mood swings. Things can bug me easily and when I get moody she doesn't just leave me alone (even though I ask her to). She will start calling me a moody cow and go on and on at me and it will turn into a big fight. Even if I walk away she still says things to me. Also if im laying in bed or on the sofa trying to releive the pain she will call me idol and lazy and tell me to stop over reacting.

Im 17, how do I get her to stop it?

Answer 1

My mum is exactly the same, it irritates me so much but there is nothing we can do about it. They'll never change :(. If she is irritating you at any one time, then go away from her and get yourself some peace for a while to calm down. If you let her get to you then the arguments will begin and she could punish you, mum's are 'always right' apparently lol. If the pain's bad, take some paracetomal and get a hot water bottle and hold it on you as it helps the pain. Also if you want an excuse to lie on your bed, read a book. That way, she's less likely to call you lazy haha. If you haven't already, read Russell Brand's Booky Wook, it's so funny!

Answer 2

I don't think you can stop her. On the other hand, you can do things to relieve your pain. If over the counter remedies such as midol, pamprin, ibuprophin, and heating pads don't work then see a gynecologist. It can be awkward, but she can suggest remedies to help you so you don't have to be miserable.

Answer 3

I hear you, and it's awful when your mother doesn't get how bad it is for you. I have the same problem.

You need to get Evening Primrose oil capsules, they help with bad period pains and mood swings. You need to take one every day, let them build up in your system, they won't do you any harm and help redress the hormonal imbalance that causes you to feel this way. I started taking them a few years ago and they really have helped.

While you're having your period, get a hot water bottle and wrap it in a towel and hold it to your tummy, and get another one for your back too, if you like. That helps a lot.

Drink hot liquids, I like mint tea for period pain. If you take it with ibobrufen, you really will feel a lot better.

How to get your mother to understand what you're going through? Go to a women's health clinic and talk to one of the doctors or nurses there, and then get your mother to go. Your problem with the pain is not uncommon, and they will help your mother understand that you are not faking it.

Answer 4

hey i have the same problem but my mom calls me a fat a$$ and tells me to go stuff my face wen i am on my period and i get really bad cramps it feels like somone is stabbing me and i cry cause it hurts and sometimes i cant even walk just ignore her i no its hard my mom pisses me off i no how u feel beleve me and i just ignore her untill she is done bein an a$$ if u want emaill me at [e-mail] ill b able to explain it alittle beter bc i have the same problem

Answer 5

I found ibuprofen the best for helping the pain.

It's hard to get parents to change - is there any chance you can go for a walk to get some peace?

Answer 6

To  be honest Becca I do not think that you will stop her. In her mind you are not experiencing anything that she does not and she thinks that you are just being a drama queen. Maybe 5 years down the line when you are the same she will realise that you were not just looking for sympathy and will regret not being more understanding.  If your periods are that bad you should see your Doctor as there are ways of easing them.

Answer 7

just  tell  to    stop

Answer 8

When she starts calling you stuff, tell her something that you know that it will make her shut up (but not in a way that will start a fight). When she wont leave you alone, just ignore her, she will eventually get tierd. If she's still persistant talk to her when you find her alone, be calm all the way even if you feel like punching her in the face. I hope this works.

Answer 9

Get two packs of Pamprin or Midol , which ever one has all the things that drive each of you banannas.

they really work and the difference is  a miracle for sure.