What can I do? Crazy grandmother...

Question

So my fiance and I moved to a small town where he has family. Its a few of his aunts and uncles and his grandparents. Well, his one grandmother really bugs me. She drives past our house all of the time and comes over at a time where im lying in bed trying top relax, she just walks in. (im 25 weeks pregnant) its getting to the point where i have thought seriously about moving. we have tried talking to her but she just doesn't get it. so im terrified that when i have my child she's going to be over here ALL THE TIME! im from a family where, we spend time together, but we know about personal space. ahhh.......I NEED HELP!!! please give me some suggestions....

Answer 1

Take it to the next level of communication put your foot down and just tell her to respect your space tell her you are thinking of moving away because of this issue or pay your rent or morgage LoLx2 Seriously though she may get mad for a while but if she loves her family and wants to see her grandchild she will come to her senses and respect you more when you stand up for yourself  

Answer 2

I think since she is his grandmother, he should speak with her. Perhaps she is getting a bit "elderly" in her thinking and needs to be evaluated. Perhaps she is lonely and needs some help finding a social event or group she can belong to.

Answer 3

Lock the door and don't answer her, she should get the idea. I agree with the one above - set aside one day, maybe every week or 2 weeks where your family can visit you.

Have a more stern talk with the grandmother, tell her that if she wants to see you at all then she will have to see you on your terms

good luck!

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Answer 4

lock the doors, answer when you want to see her. when you do not, let her knock until she leaves. of course this will irritate her, but explain that you wanted to be left alone and did not want to be interupted......keep the doors locked, she will understand that.

Answer 5

Lock your doors. Set aside one day a week (sunday?) when you can come to her house and spend time as a family. You may need to talk to her again, because it sounds like you are about to lose it. Maybe a more stern talk and basically laying it out as "call before you come over or do not come unless you are invited!"

Answer 6

LOCK YOUR DOOR, AND DO NOT ANSWER THE DOOR. ALSO TELL HER AGAIN OR TELL YOUR FIANCE TO TELL HER. HOPE SHE DOES WALK IN WHILE U ARE HAVING s*x....  GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

Just walks in? Are you leaving the door unlocked or does she have a key? Lock your door, do not answer it, if she has a key, change the locks.  

Answer 8

I'm sure she is just concerned about you and the baby. It's hard to tell someone to back off and give you some space without hurting their feelings. This should be up to your husband to step in and say something when your not present. You don't need anymore stress than what your already going through. Have him take her out to lunch or dinner so he can discuss matters with her. He needs to explain how you feel about her coming over all the time. On the other hand, that's part of having a child. Most of our parents and grandparents are old school and they are just concerned for you and the baby. You should consider yourself lucky that you have people who love you and are watching your back. With alot of the pregnant mothers dissapearing and ending up in a field or the woods some where, you should be happy to have her spend some time with you. Too many F-----G wierdos out in this world now. Maybe have your husband try to see her side of the story !

Answer 9

Lock the door and don't answer the bell if you are resting.  After a few times of this, granny will get the idea.  In the future....no call first...no coming in

Answer 10

This lady grew up in a different era to you. To her all she is doing is what comes naturally. She is excited at the prospect of this new arrival & she is concerned for your well being. It's her way of showing you that you are family. She means well, even if you don't understand nor appreciate it.

I think you are being too hard on this lady. It's better that she is the way she is, rather than just not giving a d**n about you.

Count your blessings, you could learn so much from this lady which could be of benefit to you now & in the future.

Try to accept her visits as a good thing. She means no harm.

Good Luck. X :-)

Answer 11

I feel sorry for your fiance and his family.  If you were not raised in a close knit family and he was, then it is never going to work between you two.  I hate that you are pregnant and bringing a baby into a home that is already broken and probably not able to be repaired.  Just stop and think.  You are getting ready to be a mom.  That child is going to grow up and how will you feel if his/her spouse feels that way about you.  I know you will say that you will be respectful and give them space and if you were raised that way you might.  But what if you truly love your child and you aren't self centered and stuffy like you seem now, then how would you feel.  Families are great and the more the better in my book.  I have had some conflict with my husbands family.  I can't even say I liked his mother in the beginning.  But I kept being nice and being around her just because she is his mother.  Now I think the world of her.  So, you need to loosen up and enjoy having a big happy family that is willing to accept you and love you.  Maybe go to counseling if you can't do this.  Otherwise I feel very sorry for your fiance and child.

Answer 12

i also think lock the doors