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Question

I have a soon to be ex-boyfriend in jail....He went to jail5/09/08. They sentenced him to another 6 mos in jail. He is a compulsive drinker and worrier. I lived with him for 1 1/2 years and after awhile I wanted to leave because we had problems, we fought atleast once a week. I have been helping with the bills since he's in but I really hate him. I month ago my friend was put out with her 3 kids, I volunteered to help, so they stay with me while their mother works at her new job. She can't afford to pay me except buy the kids some food. I have been looking for an apt. & a job. I'm losing my business. So money is very tight. This house is his house. His wife left him for the same reason that I am trying to leave. He is a great manipulator and knows how to make anyone feel bad for anything. I curse my brother for introducing me to him. I have spent all my money trying to help him keep his house but I can't do it anymore. He has no sense of telling the truth to the ones who has helped him through the years. He blames everyone for his mistakes and I want no part of him. I have been looking for jobs and trying to save up enough to move out, but the daily 30 calls a day from jail is very stressing for me. He constantly tells me he loves me but I realize that I'm only here to cover up his sorry a** mistakes and I am included. This is a constant depressing thought every waking moment since he's left. Please , Please Help!!! I am located in Chicago.

Answer 1

30 collect calls per day........Set a number like one per day or everyother day or once per eternity.  They are too expensive and are but a leash on you.      "No , I do not accept this call, thank you."   Say that 30 times a day.  It will get to feel good.  And , your money situation will improve... while he is in the clink work on your escape into a new life.  Better is often out there.

Answer 2

Find some family and friends to stay with, get a job, and break it off! Permanently- no calls, visits, letters, etc.

Answer 3

Don't try to leave him..just leave him. You now realise that he is not good for you so you must take care of you , because it seems he is only taking care of himself. There is only one way you can move on and that is..find someone that will let you stay with them until you get yourself a job and stop answering his calls , he is the one in jail not you ,  get away from this whole situation and stay away from it.. you must cut anything connection to him ...It's time to start taking care of you.