What can I do about my in-laws?

Question

My mil always treats me like second class. For example, my sister-inlaw and brother-in law just had a baby yesterday. Well, no one called us to let us know when she was born. When I called my MIL this morning, she told me she thought we were in bed so no one called. The baby was born at 803 pm. I guess my SIL invited a ton of friends and family to be there while she was in labor and for the birth....even my FIL's girlfriend, who everyone HATES was there for a while. but I wasn't invited. And I know my MIL is talking smack behind my back because I didn't let any family besides my husband while I was in labor with either of my kids. But she is just telling me how they were having so much fun in there, playing games and watching movies. It was all told to me with a tone of "haha you wernt there...and we had all this fun with out you...look at what you missed out on by not having us with you when you had your girls" she has always treated me like c**p...totally 2 faced...nice with a hit of snotty-ness to my face and obviously talking smack behind my back..I know she does I see her do the same thing to other people...she will be telling me things about someing, total ***** fest about someone to me, then when she sees them she is so very nice to their face. What can I do? My FIL's girlfried (my INLAWS are divorced) is a huge ****, had started screaming at my 2 year old for playing with snap-pop fireworks with my BrotherInLaw. My FIL does nothing about her and gets mad because we wont come to his house when he is full capable of coming over to our house too. I dont know how to handle these crazy people anymore!

Answer 1

Where is your husband throughout all of this? I would suggest HE handle it. Have him talk to his mom and dad and let them know that they are hurting your feelings by leaving you out. You are never going to change her personality and her **** talking, but it is up to your husband to demand respect from them. IMHO.

Answer 2

Ignore them.....if you try and fit in with them, then you'll end up becoming like them. Just be true to yourself and your family, that's the most important thing.

As far as your mil, just smile at her when she tries to make you feel left out. Tell her of all the fun things you and your hubby did with your children that she missed out on. Some ppl who have nothing better to do with their time find it amusing to make other's life h**l. Just maintain a good far distance relationship with them.