What can I do about this? Please don't say see a psycholigist cause I can't right now...?

Question

goshine: But what if there isn't a "victim" to say anything to? What if it is more a moral thing?

Answer 1

You say you have some training in psychology and you just demonstrated with your question that you have the ability to self-analyze.  You probably have the ability to get to the root of your fears.  When we visit a therapist it helps just to admit and talking out loud and hearing yourself validates that you have a secret or fear – this pushes the fear out in the open – in this case you could write several of your fears down – read them out loud and the work on one.  I bet anything that you did in the past is not as bad as what someone else has done but you might be afraid of how people you care about react to it – Fact: you cannot change the past accept that and try to move forward – you sound like an intelligent persons who cares -  

Answer 2

you are just like me

but i have it worse

i cant get into a car without fearing i will crash it

i cant get into an elevator without fearing that it will drop

and i worry if i have to attend an event or wedding, a week before that

i dont know how to cope..

i just occupy my time with doing things that i like and enjoy

like reading books/watching movies

if u find urself alone and unoccupied, u start to worry and think of all that minor stuff, so my advice to u is -keep urself occupied

hope this helps

Answer 3

go out with some friends and have a blast, try to unwind with a good book or movie, go to the beach or your favorite place, wherever.

Answer 4

Do you know any of the deep breathing and meditative exercises? if you have a psychology text book try looking it up. I also find that a product called "rescue remedy" by Bachs pharmaceuticals helps when I'm feeling stressed or anxious. RR is a natural plant derived treatment. you can find it in natural food sections at alot of grocery stores and it should be at suppliment stores. Can you see a regular doctor about this? I also find that journaling my feelings on paper or in a private blog helps. Its a way of storing my emotions elsewhere I hope you feel better and just remember that you can't change the past

Answer 5

guilt is triggered when we realize that we have hurt someone we care about or when we otherwise fall short of the standards we feel we should live by. As one reference work puts it, guilt relates to “a sense of indebtedness because of a person’s culpability for a failure, offense, crime, or sin.”

some researchers are now coming to a different conclusion. “Guilt is an essential part of being a feeling, responsible person,” says Susan Forward, Ph.D., an internationally recognized therapist and author. “It’s a tool of the conscience.”

Unfortunately, we may feel guilty without really being guilty. For example, if a person is a perfectionist and tends to set unreasonable standards for himself, each disappointment may trigger a feeling of undeserved guilt. (Ecclesiastes 7:16) Or we might allow legitimate remorse over a mistake or wrong to intensify into feelings of shame and end up punishing ourselves unnecessarily.

Feeling guilt can be good in at least three ways. First, it signals that we are aware of acceptable standards. It shows that we have a working conscience. (Romans 2:15) In fact, a book published by the American Psychiatric Association treats the absence of guilt feelings as societally threatening behavior. Those with defiled or deadened consciences have trouble seeing the difference between right and wrong, and that can be dangerous.—Titus 1:15, 16.

Second, a guilty conscience can help us avoid undesirable actions. Just as physical pain alerts us to a potential health problem, the emotional pain associated with guilt alerts us to a moral or spiritual problem that needs our attention. Once we are aware of the weakness, we are more inclined to avoid hurting ourselves, our loved ones, or others again in the future.—Matthew 7:12.

Finally, confessions of guilt can help both the guilty and the victim. King David’s guilt, for example, was accompanied by intense emotional agony. “When I kept silent my bones wore out through my groaning all day long,” he wrote. But when he finally confessed his sin to God, David gladly sang out: “With joyful cries at providing escape you will surround me.” (Psalm 32:3, 7) Confession can make even the victim feel better because an admission of guilt can assure the victim that the other person loves him or her enough to regret causing so much pain.—2 Samuel 11:2-15.

feelings of guilt may persist because a Christian feels that he could never be worthy of God’s mercy. Yet, the Bible warmly assures us: “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous so as to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)  

Answer 6

Get this book: The Anxiety & Phobia workbook - You will find it helpful.

Answer 7

i'm sorry the answer is the one you said to not give you...and yes you can, you can see one free if u need to...ask and you'll find'''

ya know it might be you need medication, and it might be more of a pcp issue that can be solved by diet...or maybe talk therapy is needed

but whatever it is, you gotta go to the doctor and find out, and handle it