What can I do if something is bothering me, but I cannot figure out exactly why?

Question

I am fixed on figuring out why my life has become a miserable h**l since I lived with my in laws from last October through February. I have lived on my own with my husband and baby for five months and every day I keep thinking about how much his family drove me nuts and how they can drive me nuts again! It's killing my marriage and I keep bringing up old problems that were solved or unsolved. Counseling is not an option... I don't have the money for it, and I don't know how to drive our manual car!!!

I feel almost obsessed by the thoughts of my husband's mother. She is very competitive and tries to out do us and rub it in our face. Keeping up with the Joneses is all I can say to describe her. It's very annoying. She tries to make herself out to be better than she is, and is truly struggling in life and bringing her son and his family down with it.

I am not looking to be mocked or called names, I'm looking for a way to find out why without much outside help. I want to look inside myself and find out why I am feeling this way, why I obsess over my husband's family like that. Could it be post-traumatic stress or something?

Answer 1

Stop trying or feeling like you need to conform. Once my mother in law told me I was a pig, so I farted at the table. You be you, that is all that is important. If your mother in law has a problem, politely rub it in her face.

Answer 2

How about Church?  If you can't afford to go talk to a counselor maybe talking to a Priest/Pastor?  

Answer 3

Learn to do Introspection. This will revel what is inside you.

Answer 4

I really wish i could give you the answers.....but unfortunately i don't have the answer. I guess what comes to mind is does your husband support you, stick up for you or does he side with his mother?

Do you have a friend, hobby, job outside the family that you can involve yourself with, you really need to have some 'you' time, to remember and enjoy yourself and your needs no matter how simple.

If you just want to vent or have someone to talk to please contact me.

good luck and don't give up it's freedom and peace of mind is worth searching for :)