What can I do??????

Question

hi guys...my boyfriend wants a baby...but I'm 17!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!... what can I do??? I think I'm too young!!!!

Answer 1

I agree with what you say you are to young. You still have your 18th bday and your 21 bday to look foreward to. You need to be ready to have a kid it is a choice that effect the rest of your life. I hate to say it but men can and they have walked out of their childs life but its harder for moms. You need to tell him your not ready and that create a list of things you would like to finish before starting a family. Things like finish school and college (which is hard for moms or dad with a baby, my hubbys finding that out LOL) Also having money set aside to cover bills in case something happens (I lost my job when I found out I was pregnant (money got tight but thankfully we had a savings) Having a place for the child I mean Im in a two bedroom apt and wished I was in a bigger place, my computer is in my room and the nursery is also my craft room (baby will have to share LOL) Even the pregnancy is tough, theres lots to do in your normal life then when your prego you have to add in getting ready for a baby and it takes the whole time, I wish I have more time to get things I need and want and to get the house in order (which you start nesting and its never good enough) GL

Answer 2

you r too young deftinitly there will be many things that u can not do  if u are a mother with a baby ...tell him you will be ready fot it in 4 years while u get nice food and treatment to have a healthy baby and if he doesn't want tell him bye bye

Answer 3

you can tell him "no". if he really loves you he will understand that you arent ready (obviously u arent ready) and he will wait.

Answer 4

if your not ready, then tell him so.  You are too young, you're right and that is a smart decision.  If he really loves you he'll understand and wait until you are both ready.  Don't let him pressure you.

Besides, he could abandon you and leave you on your own if he gets overwhelmed with having a child.

Answer 5

First off, figure out why he wants a baby.  Is it for noble reasons, or does he want a baby so that you will be tied down to him, or is he looking for a "baby momma"???  If you feel you are too young, then you are.  Congrats for recognizing that....many people can't.  Also, think long and hard about your future with this man.  You may love him now, but how about 10 years from now?  Is he serious about a higher education or gainful employment?  Does he respect you above all others???  Some things to think about.  

Definitely wait until you are 100% sure that you want a baby and can support a baby.  Do the things you want to do now while you are young.  Finish college on time.  Travel.  Do crazy stuff with your girlfriends.  You may not have the opportunity to do so when you have children, and may have to wait until you are much older.

Good luck to you, I wish you the best.

Answer 6

Just tell him NO NO NO!!!

Answer 7

Tell him no. If he is going to force you into anyway..dump him. Why would you want a guy that is so controlling anyway. I don't care who you are, everyone deserves better than that.

If he is a guy worth having he will wait until you are ready.

Answer 8

uhm..tell him u dont want one..

Answer 9

If your not ready for a baby, which i dont blaime ya just tell your boyrfriend. Theres no way you should start a family if your not ready, its a big step. X

Answer 10

don't have s*x with him unless he has a condom on, you are on birth control, or both.

tell him that it is stupid to want a baby at that age.

Answer 11

just tell him you're not ready

Answer 12

TELL HIM UR NOT READY...

Answer 13

Hiya =]

Just say no. Say your not ready. Be careful, do not let him pressurize you into doing something you don't want.

Remember, its YOU that would be having the baby. Not him. He can abandon you, He can leave you with the baby once it all gets a bit too much, He can leave you on your own.

Just be careful and firmly say 'No'.

Answer 14

awwwweee. im seventeen and my boyfriend is twenty.. and he wants a baby and i do as well and were actually working on that right now.

but you shouldnt let him pressure you in to dooing something as big as having a baby..but if you feel that you can give a baby the proper care it needs and provided for it in a way that any other mother could then go for it. age isnt anything, all that really matters is if YOU are ready for it. and if not that is fine. just give him your reason for not wanting a baby at the moment  and tell him you would like to wait a few years when you would be able to be a better mother for your baby.