My partner has major depression, on antidepressants that don't seem to be doing anything for him. To top it all off he has a gambling addiction, and just spent all his pay on the pokies. It's my birthday next week, so now he's feeling so low that he went and blew money he was going to buy my present with (& also pay rent) on gambling. He said he's "Over it all". I'm always there for him because I love him. At first I was upset about my birthday present, but I put it in perspective - he is more important to me than material possesions and I just want him to get better. I don't know what to do to keep him motivated. He is seeing his doctor weekly. Would I be out of line if I wrote a letter to his doctor telling him about the frequency of the bad days, and that he hasn't improved? His doctor originally wanted to admit him to hospital for fear of his wellbeing. What else can I do for him? He goes through the "You're better off without me" phase (which I guess now because of the b'day present thing will make that worse) and I tell him that now isn't the time to make decisions like that - when he gets better, if he still feels that way I'll leave him alone. I'm the only support he has and I love him and would do anything for him. He has a great heart and has looked after me when I've been sick, coming with me to appointments etc. I just want more than anything for him to keep going, and wait for the better days.
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