What can I do to help my neice cope with bullies?

Question

I have a seven year old neice who is constantly picked on at school. As a toddler, doctors thought she was autistic, but it was never confirmed, and they eventually diagnosed her with 'developmental disabilities'. Now, even though it took her longer than most to walk, and talk, she is very active, witty and bright (attends 'regular' first grade classes). She definiately identifies feelings and emotion. And even though she doesnt always use her words in the right context, and shes quiet and sensitive, she sure knows what people think of her. My question is, what can I do when she comes home from school and falls into my arms, calmly telling me that a little boy threw a ball at her face because he doesnt like her and shes stupid? Or when she asks me to come eat lunch with her because nobody likes her, therefore no kids will sit with her during lunch time? She is very lonely at school, and very hurt that nobody wants to play with her, or even say "hi". Any suggestions on what I can do?

Answer 1

Maybe shes a bit shy in class and doesnt go up to people often (thats me) maybe shes waiting for someone to come to her. About that boy tell her that he doing that to make himself look cool and tell her shes not stupid and to let no one tell her wat she is and not is.

Answer 2

I dealt with that a lot in grade school. It's a hard thing to help with because the child must go through it alone. You can help by being her friend though. It will really help her to know that there are people (even if they're family) that think she's special, beautiful, and worthy of time. If she gains that confidence she will start to reflect it at school and that may help with other kids. She needs to gain a lot of personal value and confidence.

Answer 3

You tell the teacher if it happens again your going to make HER accountable and sue the school.Believe me they will pay better attention to the kids.

Answer 4

Enroll her in martial arts and let her develop her own confidence. She needs these skills for the rest of her life!