What can I do to improve my attitude at work now that I realize that it is terrible because I hate my job??

Question

Ok. I realize that the best solution is just to go out and get my dream job - but, reality is, that's not going to happen. I'm single, and I have kids to raise. My new job (only a couple months) pays really well, and allows me holidays & weekends with my children. In fairness, I have "caught" my terrible attitude from my co-workers, who already had hostile, aggressive attitudes when I got here. I've already burned out on the backstabbing, gossipy, sneaky, destructive style so many of them seem to have (due to an extremely rude and arrogant owner who's business philosophy is to pit employees against each other).If results don't come, he closes the door and screams at people, berating them to tears. I hate it, because my style is so much more co-operative and empathetic. (I have one employee who adores me and swears he'll quit if I leave). I've gotten to the point though, where I'm not even interested in "helping" these people improve their disfunctional work family, because I simply don't like them enough after the constant insult trading and finger pointing I've endured. SO - I want to stay for the paycheck, but, I'm afraid I'm going to fly off the handle soon and tell someone to F--- Off and get the h**l outta my face. Or, I will be forced to pen up my unhappiness and will eventually implode under the strain....I would prefer to create a mental oasis of calm that is all my own, to shield my from the barrage of negativity around me, but I don't know how to do that. How do you shield yourself against so many hostile people that are screaming and yelling all day long??? P.S. - In case you're wondering, my boss, also a properly trained "people person" style manager, agrees with my assessment of our colleagues, so it's NOT just me.... HELP!!!!1

Answer 1

get another job!

Answer 2

Are you my sister-in-law?  Oh, no, she already quit her job.  Same situation - the owners' children were the only people "working" (I should have such an easy, high-paying "job") for the company.  Then there were a few dozen "meat machines" that the company owned.  She stuck it out until she could leave.  "Zombie" through the week and enjoy your kids on the weekends.  One day something better will come along, then you can either just give notice or, if you like making snappy comments, write your resignation on the back of a GOOHF card.

Answer 3

if they wantto treat hte job like there in high school let em. it should be about being happy the chance for opportunity and the chance to grow with the copany. most  of it you have to work hard the rest is being fake. your  a single mother so you have to do your best for your kids as well

Answer 4

I understand and I had the same position, I have resigned because I was tired of being belittled. My work mates are all lovely and my boss is the one who makes me get really angry and frustrated.

What I suggest is to suggest to the manager to have a team building exercise to get the employees working together. You can't always change the attitude of the people around you so if that doesn't work then change your approach.

How I stayed in my job for so long was to say that the rest of the time wasn't so bad and that these nasty people are also people and they are just projecting and that you need to just ignore their comments and get on with doing the best you can. Resolve as much as possible to make people be nice to you and respect you.

I have thrown in the towel because I didn't get the support or the right job description that they promised. I can do this because I have a supportive husband.

Good luck with your situation. I know what it's like to have people barking at you.

Answer 5

Get another job once you can. It may pay good but that is a very negative environment and it is rubbing off on you. What you get in cash you pay back with your attitude and happiness.

That boss doesn't have a good strategy, he just bullies people into results.

You can shield yourself by not taking anything personally in the meantime. But eventually, it will be best to look for a positive work environment before it takes its toll on you.

Answer 6

Just keep a good attitude by thinking of the best in everyone don't' even be chided into believing what is going on and move about your daily tasks and do what you can be bring sunshine in. that is all but if i were you i would start looking for a new job it can take a long while and when you find another to your liking and pay you can move that should be enough to instill the best in you and ignore the rest of the mess going on.

Answer 7

hi wats up im too lazy to read ur report but can u please make me top answer cuz i need the points im only lvl 1

Answer 8

I have the same thing going on at work. I fell into the gossip trap for a while, and I hate myself for it.  I am a hard worker and very loyal and I too have a co-worker who said he would leave if I did.

However, I have some 'tools' at my disposal that he does not have. I meditate, take time-outs when things get gossipy.  I don't engage in gossip or back stabbing. I walk off when conversations turn towards personal issues not of my concern.

  I've had to distance myself from those I formerly gossiped with. They are consumed with their own tawdry little worlds so my absence is quickly filled with other things like more gossip and backstabbing.

I hold myself accountable for my own actions and if I blunder I promptly admit and apologize.

I use the serenity prayer as a guide: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

If something is bothering me at work, I ask myself, 'can I change it? does it bother me that much, that I need to even worry about it?"

I've learned to let a lot of things slide. Unless it really effects me in a negative way that I can't ignore.

Plus, I still do my best in my work but I don't sacrifice myself too often without being asked. I put in a full day's work for a full day's pay and I leave my work at work.

Answer 9

Well first, you have to stop waking up hating going to work (which I am sure you are doing) s***w the co-workers (not literally) because they are not going to pay your salary when you get fired or leave. There is always DRAMA when there is more than 1 co-worker but you have to think of the most important thing..your kids. Times are really hard right now and if you are making good money, with good benefits you are going to have to learn to put the blinders on and ignore the negative conversations. They are not worth you loosing your job. Be strong, girl !! Also, just because you are a single mom doesn't mean you are stuck. Keep looking for different opportunities, different jobs while you keep the job you are in. When opportunity come knock-in, grab it. Until then don't keep thinking about how much you hate it there. Say a prayer for strength.