What can I do to make my husband understand?

Question

So, I just found out about 2 wks ago that Im pregnant again. This makes number 3 for me but I also have a stepson too. I am about 9 wks already but feeling awful! Worse than with my other 2. Im so nauseated I can barely eat at all. If I walk around too much it makes it worse. And unlike with my other 2, Im actually vomitting this time. My back has been bothering really bad too. I already have a pinche nerve and my kidneys are messed up.

But the only thing my husband can do is tell me to shut up, am I going to have to listen to this for the next 6 months, when are you going to stop being lazy, all you do is sit on your A**. When really its not. I also have 3 kids, so Im far from lazy. He also wont have s*x with me.

WHAT CAN I DO????? He will not listen to me about anything! He just says haha and stop your b****ing. So, anyone who could help, Id love it! All I do is cry now when he yells and starts being mean and I dont know what to do.

Thanks.

Answer 1

To be honest your husband sounds abusive, but maybe he is also a little scared.  Maybe asking him why he is so negative towards you regarding the pregnancy will help. Was he like this with your other two children?

Answer 2

Tell him to get lost. No man needs to be speaking to you that way. If my husband ever said those things to me you can bet I'd take my son and we'd go to my parents' house.

Answer 3

Drop him you don't need that, verbal abuse can take a toll on your self esteem.

Answer 4

sounds like you need a divorce. he isn't sensitive to your needs at all...sounds like an a$$ not someone I would want to be married to!

Answer 5

You are in an abusive relationship. You need to get out of it, and if you feel that's not an option, you BOTH need to seek counseling. Being pregnant is HARD work, and I am also more nauseated with this pregnancy than with my first. I haven't really eaten in 4 days because I physically can't. You are under enough stress right now, the last thing you need is to be emotionally abused. If you can, at least leave for a while and stay with a friend or family member and hope he comes around. Do you really want your children seeing the way he's treating you and thinking it's acceptable? Be strong even though it's hard. You deserve better but nothing will change until you take the first step. Good luck.

Answer 6

my suggestion is to leave.  i know its easier said than done but you don't need that kind of abuse.  please get help from family and friends.  your story really makes me want to cry. no one should have to put up with that,  especially not while having a rough pregnancy.