What can I do to make myself more friendly towards others?

Question

I am serious because I got a lot of c**p going on.I have friend, family,school, and sometimes job issues.At times I feel like I am a cold person and I dont want to be like that. I just feel bad when I brush someone aside because I am busy or in a bad mood ,especially when they are trying to be nice to me.

Answer 1

I have struggled with the exact same thing.  It was helpful for me to read a couple of self-help books like "How to Talk Like a Winner."  If you're like me, you might feel self-conscious about reading those books at first; in fact, I actually called myself "loser!" every time I opened the cover.  Later, after seeing how much the advice helped me, I stopped berating myself so much.  I'd often think "hey, I know all this stuff already!" but then I'd ask myself, "So, if you 'know it', when is the last time you've 'done it'?"  I've heard a lot of positive feedback from parents since that I seem warm and welcoming.  (I teach middle school.)  

Good luck.  I know how it is to feel trapped by a kind of cold exterior.  It feels great to melt it off, though!

Answer 2

This is a wonderful question.  It would be amazing if more people in the world wanted to be more friendly.  

Imagine yourself as the other person, and try to develop a sense of empathy for him or her.  Think of moments when people have been friendly with you, and how good that made you feel.  Think of how nice it would be if you were friendly with someone and made him or her feel good, bringing more happiness into a world that needs it.  

Answer 3

i always say treat others how you would like to be treated yourself.that is my motto in life.but if someone is nasty to you then they don't have respect for you.what do you do then? well you don't have to be a doormat either.but in life wouldn't it be nice if there were no wars and violence? i think so.religion causes many of wars and nobody wins a war really. colour and race causes war and nobody can help what co lour they are.i am not predigest i like everyone.but if i meet someone in life who is nice i am nice to them.if i meet someone who is nasty i stay away from them.sometimes it can be hard to stay away e.g.if you have to work with them.well then there is always compromising if that does not work then you must have your say without violence it is better to stay calm,be precise and say your piece like a calm adult.if they don't  listen,then still staying calm explain that if they were you they would at least listen and say your piece again still calmly.if they still don't listen sometimes you have to say we will have to agree to disagree.but if at work its a decision that has to be made the compromise has to be to bring someone else in and what ever they say has to go.that's compromising again.  

Answer 4

Great question.

I can't beat "greenhar".  Good answer.