What can I do to stop my wife from wanting another baby?

Question

We already have a 2 year old girl, and my wife is driving me nuts telling me everyday she wants another baby!!

I've been telling her that I'm not ready for it again, but a part of me wants my daughter to have a brother or sister. Please HEEELPP!!

Answer 1

You need to talk this over calmly with your wife.  She should understand that this kind of "s*x on demand because I want another child" has a very dampening effect on a man's desire to even have s*x.  Ask her why she feels so pressured to have another child?  What's the rush.  And, by the way, when you and she have s*x make absolutely sure to use a condom.  Many men have been unhappily suprised by fatherhood because their partners have secretly stopped using birth control.

Answer 2

let her babysit some one with a newborn while having her 2 year old..shell prob be changing her ming very soon....its hard.but there blessings and are you every really ready for a child?

Answer 3

The best thing in a marriage is communication. Sometimes it's best to just be blunt, but first you have to be sure about how YOU really feel. If you are certain that you don't want another child right now, just tell her that now isn't the right time for you two. Tell her that you aren't saying that you don't ever want more children, just right now. It may be a good idea to give an approximate time to ask again, say 6 months from now.

But you mention that part of you wants your daughter to have a brother or sister. Do you mean that part of you wants that to happen now? Because there will be plenty of time for your daughter to have siblings. What really matters is that you and your family are financially, emotionally, and physically ready to create another member of your family.

Although I can relate to her point of view, I can also understand you being nervous about another newborn in the house. What it comes down to is you figuring out how you really feel, and then expressing those feelings to your wife. She might be disappointed now, but she'll love you more for it when she sees what a good father you will be to baby #2 when you are truly ready. Good luck!

Answer 4

when a woman wants a baby she wants a baby! - theres very little you can do to convince her otherwise.

Answer 5

Just talk to her and tell her how you feel.  I believe she would understand.  Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

Talk to her about your feelings and listen to her reasons. Make a plan, you dont have to stick to it but at least you will somehow get onto the same ground. Say that lets no discuss this now and let nature take its course (if your not ready you can always use protection), but talking is the best way to get past your feelings and make a decision. Who knows, maybe you are ready for another kid since you have a beautiful child thats already 2.

Answer 7

oh lordd it hink this is a big problem

but i think tht you should talk to her seriouslyyy

cause i mean is not like is a teenagers relationship

so talk to herr is all i can say!

Answer 8

There is absolutely NOTHING you can do to make her stop wanting another baby.......This is coming from a mother of one who wants another one soon.....

Answer 9

When do u think you will be ready?  Sitting down with your wife and letting her know that you are open to the idea of another child but would like to wait untill your daughter is 3 or 4 may reassure her and make both of u more comfortable with an agreed upon family plan.

Answer 10

Sounds like you might be open to another child, but not now.   You will both just have to agree on when that will happen.  A little compromising is needed on both your parts. Tell her you want a brother or sister for your daughter, but lets wait until._____. Maybe if she sees a little light at the end of the tunnel,  she will be willing to wait.

Answer 11

You can't stop her from wanting another baby, but you can explain to her, that you're not ready yet.

Answer 12

What else can you tell her. A 2 year old is enough, I always wanted my children to be at least 4 years apart. It gives you time to see how everything turns out.

good luck!

Answer 13

Hey talk to her about what you are feeling and explain to her that you are just not ready for another child just yet but wil in the future good luck but be very gentle as this is a delicate subject x*x