What can I do to take my mind off the kids being in school? First day & I miss them already?

Question

Today was my daughters first day of K and my sons first full day of school. (I homeschooled him last year) I stayed strong at school, but as soon as they walked out of sight the tears started coming & I can't seem to get my mind off it. I know they're going to be fine & I know it's a part of life, but I can't seem to stop crying. I also feel bad because my son & my daughter had to line up at different places & I wasn't able to see my daughter off (I stayed w/ my son & my husband went w/ our daughter) Well, I guess she cried a little & asked for me & I wasn't there for her. I feel so bad. I think that's a big part of my sadness. Tomorrow I think we will switch. Also, I'm on crutches right now & can't do much but sit & think about it. Any suggestions. Also how long does it take to get used to this lonliness?

Answer 1

aw, your feelings are so natural.  my sister started a hobby.  she started to crochet, sew and knit.  she would do projects for the kids. that way, she was doing something for them.  so while she missed them, she was excited to be working on beautiful hand made items for them and all the while she smiled while making them, thinking about them and how much they would like them.  plus, it turned into a game on how fast she could make stuff and they were very exicted to come home and see the progress.  she then took them to crafts stores to have them pick out their own patterns.  she takes a picture with each child wearing or holding the new item and they put them in an album.  nice keepsake.  cheer up.  you sound like a great mom.

Answer 2

Well my friend you have reached one of the rites of passage for your daughter. She probably cried for a minute or two but as soon as she got in the room and started her activities she was probably fine. The first few days are the toughest. I would suggest go shopping and maybe lunch but since you hurt yourself that might be hard to do. Just spend some quality time with your friends here or maybe watch a little tv take a nap a bubble bath is out with stitches. Best of luck to you. (((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))... don't worry it will all be fine.

Answer 3

I would look at photo albums

Answer 4

keep busy but u cant homeschool your children it handicaps them for life they dont learn socail skills that way.

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Answer 5

*hugs* That has to be hard. But look on it as a new chapter in your life! What are some things you wanted to do but couldn't because little ones are home? Start a new book. Take a long bubble bath.Organize those drawers you keep meaning to do but don't have the time. Start a scrapbook for their school year. The important thing is too keep busy. Look on it instead of a loss, a gain. A gain of YOUR time.  

Answer 6

I know, My youngest is 3 weeks. I Just started a Playgroup for my 2 year old, It starts at 9AMand ends at 12pm. I miss her already, but i still have 11 year old twins, and a 3 week old on my hands :)

You have to let go, Before you know it, You'll  be saying " Is it schooltime yet?" :)

I would go out, but since your on crutches, that's preety limited. Take a nap, watch T.V.

Answer 7

It will get easier as time goes on.  It would be a great idea if you and your husband switch on and off with walking  the kids to their rooms.

Maybe you can watch a movie.  Do you have any hobbies?  Scrapbooking, cross stitching?  You could bake your kids cupcakes or cookies and decorate them so they will have a sweet treat when they return from school.

Stay strong!

Answer 8

I wish we lived in the same town. I would come over with some tequila sunrises. ;-)

You've been 100% devoted to these two since they were born and I applaud that, but now you have time for you and that's not selfish, that's being human. Your other kids are grown and now these two are having this huge milestone. Some grieving is of course natural.

But, what does BigMomma want to do with her life that's not about being a Momma? I know you got a new job, and that's cool, but what else? What have you put aside since having kids that you could take up now? What's your dream? I understand how huge this is for you -- your baby going to kindergarten and your son going on his own. It's time for BigMomma to do something on her own, too.

Bigger than a hobby, though that would be a fine start.

I think for all these hours the kids are in school that you're not working you should immerse yourself in whatever your dream is.

If you're of a Christian bent you could get the book "40 Days of Purpose." If you're not, or really even if you are but would prefer it, you could get the book, "What Color is Your Parachute?"  You're sidelined with your injury so you can't start a new workout or anything, but you can point on click on Amazon to get a guide that will start you on the path to realizing your dream. I also recommend, "The Secret," and if you email me your address I will mail that to you straight away. I think I got "40 Days" at the library and my edition of "What Color is Your Parachute" is like 10 years old.

A happy and fulfilled mother has happy and fulfilled children, and adult children who have had a role model on how to live a fulfilling life. Contrary to what some say, a mother does not have to give up who she is when she has children, and especially as the children move on to school and navigating those parts of their own lives, a mother can have her own life, too.

The only other thing my creative but sometimes evil little mind thought of was to have an affair, but that would create so many more problems than it would solve, I cannot in good conscience recommend it. It would mostly just be a distraction and stress reliever on a temporary level.

Answer 9

How about taking up a hobby?  Something that you can work on by yourself while they're gone, but when your kids get home from school they can partake in as well?