What can I do when my significant other is jealous of my children?

Question

We are 71 and 60, and have been living together for 5 yrs, very compatible, but the minute one of my kids asks me to babysit, or come to grandchildrens programs, he is sick or has a bad back or whatever. He knows he does this................we talk about it. Its only a few times a year, and because they live 1 hr away I usually stay overnight.

He also doesnt do a thing around the house or yard, unless I am gone, he sits in front of the tv, and putzes around doing nothing. But when I am gone...........he has a whole list of things he needs to do and does them. I cook, clean and bake and am at his beck and call most of the time, but when I am gone to one of the kids. help I love the guy, but what can I do?

Answer 1

I'm so glad you seem to be keeping up with technology, such as computers, many people from other generations find it overwhelming but its nice to see that you dint

But your if significant other is showing signs of jealousy, they aren't the one.  I know from experience that if someone always need to be the center of your attention and they need to be constantly number one then they have more issues then many are ready to takle in a relationship.  From what you have said, you have made it evidently clear that this isn't the man your destined to be with.  Try communicating to him that he needs to change.  Mabey seeing a marriage/relationship counselor will help

Answer 2

Go see your grandchildren if that's what you want to do, don't let your "significant other" stop you.  Let him do his thing and you do yours and ignore any complaints, sulking or whatever. He isn't jealous he's controlling.  By the way, why doesn't he go with you?