What can I for my parents to stop drug-testing me?

Question

My Mom is now giving me random drug tests because she knows I tried benzodiazepine pills back in April. She didn't start testing me, however, until a few weeks ago when she found a cigarette butt in the toilet. She now gives me random tests, which I have passed so far.

If I improve my behavior and attitude, and bring my GPA up from a 3.8 to a 4.5, do you think my Mom will have more respect for me and stop giving tests? I'd like to hear from parents. I'm seventeen years old.

Answer 1

I believe you will just have to give her time and earn back her trust. I know all kids try stupid things ( I was one of them), however, you are technically still a child and as long as you live in her house, you must follow her rules. And by the way....coming from a former smoker who started at 15....just say no. They are extremely bad for you and very hard to quit, not to mention soooooo expensive now depending on where you live. Save you life and your $$$.

Answer 2

Hold on.  A cigarette in the toilet may be from someone else who came to your house earlier.  And just because there is one in the toilet doesn't mean you actually smoked it.

Answer 3

You probably may not want to hear from me because I'm not a parent. But i think your plan may work. Also, don't argue with her, and do what she tells you to. Just start it gradually, or she may suspect something -_-

Keep passing those tests, too.

Really hope I've helped you ^_^

Answer 4

Your really going to work hard to get your GPA up from a 3.8...especially in math if your going for a 4.5

Answer 5

You can legally refuse, I believe.

And good luck getting your average to 4.5...  

Answer 6

she can not resting you forever.... I understand that it is very annoying but she is a mother and she loves you and she doesn´t know what to do to protect you, just try to put yourself in her situation as well it must be hard for her, and try to talk to her and explain your feeling ...but how does she drug-testing you???

good luck!

Answer 7

Another answer on your momm's side on this.  As a parent it's her job to do EVERYTHING she can to keep you safe. If you aren't doing anything wrong, as far as taking drugs, you have nothing to worry about and she'll stop once she feels you've passed enough tests, every time. I doubt your mother doesn't respect you.  I think she loves you very much to take the time (and flack from you I'm sure) to do this drug testing.  Don't put too mch pressure on yourself, just be friendly at home, work hard at school and stay off drugs, and you'll be amazed at how great you'll get along at home with your parents.

Answer 8

Unfortunately, you have lost their trust.  It will take a very long time for you to earn it back, if ever.  It's not about Mom respecting you, it's about her living up to her responsibility to you and keeping you on the straight and narrow.  She's doing the right thing.