What can I say to my boyfriend to help him feel better?

Question

He has been really stressed with school lately. Yesterday we got in a huge fight online because he was in a cranky mood because he's so tired everyday when he gets home from school. He just started his freshman year (9th grade) He said he just wanted to concentrate on school for now and take a break. It was so bad we broke up. But not we're back together and I'm pretty sure everything is fine. If this happens again or he's stressing, what should I say to him, words of encouragement or something so he's not in such a bad mood? Thanks.

Answer 1

let him know you care about him.  give him some space and wait for a response.......  

Answer 2

He's probobly goin through puberty, try to give him some space to relax and get used to the changes. If not then you could try to help him out by making him feel better like taking him on a date or something. Good luck with your boyfriend and don't worry he'll be happy again before you know it!

Answer 3

Darling it is very sweet of you to want to help him feel better.

I am going through a stage like this with my beloved and sometimes i do not know if i am doing too little or too much. Sometimes often when i do not get reassurance i get so worried about whether he feels i am there, and instead my actions come out like i am not being understanding.

The best advice i can give to you, is to try and be patient. For me I find it hard to be patient and deep down i am very understanding person but when anxiety gets a hold of me it reflects as me not being of that nature which disappoints me because that is not my intention.

The best thing you can do is to give him time to better himself. Please do not be a person of distraction to his life but be a helper. I am glad you want to encourage and support him. The best thing I suggest is at least 3 times a week text him wishing him well. Just a simple text of encouragement or words of encouragement that also reflects you are understanding and care about the want for him to better and be happy. If it is not too much, just call him on the weekends twice or once of the weekend and once in the middle of the week to catch up on conversation, also seeing how he is doing.

This will really strengthen you both and show to him how much you care and respect him. I really pray that he sees how lucky he is to having such a loving person who cares, adores, wants to support and encourage him the best way you possibly can.

YOU JUST STAND BY HIM...NOT GET IN HIS WAY OF SUCCESS BUT BE THE PERSON WHO WALKS SIDE BY SIDE WITH HIM ON HIS PATH. BEST WISHES ;-).

Answer 4

well to tell you the truth, what would probably make him feel better would be..."wanna see my b***s"

Answer 5

I can tell you as a guy, that the best thing to do at those times is just let him be.  If you are physically with him, just stay near him, but don't say anything, unless he starts the conversation.